http://articles.getacoder.com/self_improvement/grief_loss.htm Free Content For Your Website http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-nd/2.0/ Losing a parent through death or divorce is one of the most difficult things a child will face. It is important for the remaining parent to help their child face and deal with their loss in a healthy manner. Sat, 30 Aug 2008 03:12:58 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Five_Ways_to_Help_a_Child_Cope_With_the_Loss_of_a_Parent_1556513x1220080378.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Five_Ways_to_Help_a_Child_Cope_With_the_Loss_of_a_Parent_1556513x1220080378.htm Death, both to the living and to the dying, means many different things. To some extent the meaning is different from person to person but many times our thoughts are based on our religion. Each religion around the world has their own view on death, the process of dying, and what is done after death. Fri, 22 Aug 2008 08:19:41 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Religious_Perspectives_of_Death_1553089x1219407581.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Religious_Perspectives_of_Death_1553089x1219407581.htm Recently several clients and friends have experienced hardships from house foreclosures to job loss to health crisis. Unfortunately not all things in life are "good" but with the right tools, you can find your way through your own quagmire to peace. Fri, 01 Aug 2008 23:20:49 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/When_Life_Happens_1553880x1217647249.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/When_Life_Happens_1553880x1217647249.htm Divorce, redundancy, changing job, moving home etc are usually cited among the major causes of stress, but surely the most stressful thing we experience is bereavement. Our relationships with others are what really define our identity and place in the world, and when we realize that one who's been close will no longer be around in this lifetime the impact can be devastating. There's no easy way forward but this article might serve to light the way. Tue, 29 Jul 2008 13:46:29 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Coping_With_Bereavement_-_A_Spiritual_Approach_1418258x1217353589.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Coping_With_Bereavement_-_A_Spiritual_Approach_1418258x1217353589.htm There is no simple way through the grieving process, I know because I've been there. In 2005 I lost my Mom and husband within a month of each other and later that same year an uncle. I have lost relatives to death before, but this was different. Tue, 29 Jul 2008 09:59:31 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Journey_Through_the_Grieving_Process_1418256x1217339971.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Journey_Through_the_Grieving_Process_1418256x1217339971.htm Loss and grief is different for different reasons and under different circumstances. The pain touches on the same areas - the physical, emotional, spiritual, psychological and at times, financial. The loss of a spouse (or partner) leaves behind broken chords that hopefully, Father Time can mend. Sun, 27 Jul 2008 10:08:34 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Bereavement_-_Picking_Up_the_Pieces_1402389x1217167714.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Bereavement_-_Picking_Up_the_Pieces_1402389x1217167714.htm After a loved one dies we have lots of grief work to do. Months pass and we may think this grief work is done, only to find there is more to do. This article describes some of the lingering effects of grief after multiple losses. Tue, 22 Jul 2008 17:26:49 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Two_Lingering_Effects_of_Grief_-_Forgetfulness_and_Silly_Mistakes_1551619x1216762009.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Two_Lingering_Effects_of_Grief_-_Forgetfulness_and_Silly_Mistakes_1551619x1216762009.htm This past week has been filled with stories about the life Tim Russert lived. How he lived life to the fullest. I am saddened at his passing; saddened at losing such a remarkable person and journalist. As I listen to the many stories, I am reminded again of the lessons death teaches us. Although I never knew Tim Russert personally, here are a few of the lessons his life and death taught me: Sat, 19 Jul 2008 13:33:47 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Lessons_From_Tim_Russert_1418254x1216488827.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Lessons_From_Tim_Russert_1418254x1216488827.htm Grief and loss are inherent parts of life. No one gets off scott free from facing the emotional and physical pain of accepting the death of a loved one. Here are seven rules that will help in the challenge to deal with the inevitable changes to be faced and re-orienting to a new and different life. Fri, 18 Jul 2008 09:20:24 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/7_Rules_For_Managing_Grief_and_Loss_1402386x1216387224.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/7_Rules_For_Managing_Grief_and_Loss_1402386x1216387224.htm Do you feel broken-hearted yet another time due to the break-up of a relationship, or due to your partner not giving you what you want? Discover that this may not be the actual cause of your heartbreak! Thu, 17 Jul 2008 17:28:51 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Self-Help_-_Healing_Your_Broken_Heart_1402387x1216330131.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Self-Help_-_Healing_Your_Broken_Heart_1402387x1216330131.htm When a member of a family dies, every member of the family will experience their own grieving process. Not only are they suffering from the loss of the family member, but they are also being affected by the changes within every other member in the household. Everyone's role in the family will be changed by the death of a family member and what was once stable is not anymore. Mon, 14 Jul 2008 20:58:06 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Grieving_Families_1556522x1216083486.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Grieving_Families_1556522x1216083486.htm Feeling Sad So you are feeling Sad. I know how it feels like, it feels like there is something hurting you but you are not aware of it, It feels like you are neither happy nor satisfied. But why do we feel sad? Sun, 13 Jul 2008 10:15:38 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Stop_Feeling_Sad_1402406x1215958538.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Stop_Feeling_Sad_1402406x1215958538.htm They say the death of a child is the greatest loss. I would say that I believe that. I lost two. Sat, 12 Jul 2008 13:13:32 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Surviving_The_Loss_Of_A_Child_1402423x1215882812.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Surviving_The_Loss_Of_A_Child_1402423x1215882812.htm Children experience a loss in a much different way than adults will. It is important that the adults in the child's life help them to cope with their loss and move through the grieving process. Understanding that some of the behaviors that the child is exhibiting are an expression of grief and loss can help the parent to cope with the behavior in the child. Wed, 09 Jul 2008 00:37:31 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/How_Children_Experience_a_Loss_1556531x1215578251.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/How_Children_Experience_a_Loss_1556531x1215578251.htm Our loss is your gain should have been how the garage sale sign read. It was too soon to open our doors to the steady stream of curiosity seekers. Tue, 08 Jul 2008 22:21:17 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Learning_From_A_Loss_1402421x1215570077.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Learning_From_A_Loss_1402421x1215570077.htm Poems about loss of loved ones are not easy to find. I wish I had some inspirational words or poems to help me deal with the death of my father. Hopefully my story can help someone dealing with the loss a loved one. Tue, 08 Jul 2008 22:03:39 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/My_Lost_Loved_One_-_Dealing_With_The_Death_Of_My_Father_1402398x1215569019.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/My_Lost_Loved_One_-_Dealing_With_The_Death_Of_My_Father_1402398x1215569019.htm Leslee Tessmann is the author of "Sacred Grief: Exploring a New Dimension to Grief," which is scheduled for publication early this spring (March). Leslee also lectures and teaches workshops on the concepts explored in her book, as well as on spirituality, communication, and recovery issues. She has a passion for exploring the power of language and its impact on how we experience life. Tue, 08 Jul 2008 06:45:37 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Interview_With_Leslee_Tessmann,_Author_Of_Sacred_Grief_-_Exploring_A_New_Dimension_to_Grief_1402415x1215513937.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Interview_With_Leslee_Tessmann,_Author_Of_Sacred_Grief_-_Exploring_A_New_Dimension_to_Grief_1402415x1215513937.htm Fortunately, I have never had to deliver a eulogy. However, I have had to go through a couple of deaths. That includes the death of my five year old nephew's last August. There can be different types of eulogies and depending on the situation may alter what kind of eulogy you may want to give. Fri, 04 Jul 2008 16:55:40 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Write_and_Give_a_Eulogy_1402392x1215204940.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Write_and_Give_a_Eulogy_1402392x1215204940.htm As a clairvoyant, I can see my loved ones in other realms. I feel Louise take my arm often and hear her laughing. Wed, 02 Jul 2008 03:10:48 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Grief_at_The_Loss_Of_a_Loved_One_-_Dealing_With_Grief_1402433x1214982648.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Grief_at_The_Loss_Of_a_Loved_One_-_Dealing_With_Grief_1402433x1214982648.htm In our lifetimes, few of us escape the pain of grief over losing a loved one. Many of us experience this pain a number of times. In fact, the more full and engaged one's life is the more one runs the risk of this kind of loss. Even if we somehow were never to lose a human friend or family member, any pet owner knows that it is one of nature's ironies that our beloved pets have a shorter average life span than we do. Sun, 29 Jun 2008 11:01:18 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Parts_Awareness_in_the_Grieving_Process_1548721x1214751678.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Parts_Awareness_in_the_Grieving_Process_1548721x1214751678.htm When a child experiences grief their experience will be very different from that of an adult. It is important that the adults in the child's life help them through their grief and understand the pain that they are feeling. Children may express their feelings in ways that are not healthy and an adult or therapist must help them to find ways to let out their angry and painful feelings. Sun, 08 Jun 2008 17:47:55 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Help_Children_Who_Are_Experiencing_Grief_1556537x1212961675.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Help_Children_Who_Are_Experiencing_Grief_1556537x1212961675.htm When a loved one is lost it is a very tragic and distressing experience in one's life. Most people will experience this loss at some point in their life. When people experience an uncomplicated grief they will experience a period of sadness, denial and even anger and guilt over the loss of their loved one. Eventually those feelings fade and the person is able to move on with their life. Tue, 03 Jun 2008 06:23:28 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Getting_Through_Complicated_Grief_1556565x1212488608.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Getting_Through_Complicated_Grief_1556565x1212488608.htm People deal with a loss in their own unique way. This will mean that each member of a family might need a different method to cope with their grief. There are some good strategies that can help someone through this difficult time in their life. Remember, that not all loss is about a death. A loss can be divorce or any time that a significant person is no longer in your life. When that happens a loss is experienced and the grief process must be dealt with... Sun, 18 May 2008 10:16:22 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Strategies_to_Cope_With_a_Loss_1556552x1211120182.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Strategies_to_Cope_With_a_Loss_1556552x1211120182.htm Recovering from grief takes years. You may think you are doing well and suddenly burst into tears. Grief work takes self-examination, self-understanding, coping skills, and learning to spot signs of regression. This article, by a professional author who lost four loved ones, details the steps she takes to stay on the recovery road. Sat, 19 Apr 2008 22:59:35 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Do_You_Need_a_Grief_Recovery_Tune-Up_1553911x1208660375.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Do_You_Need_a_Grief_Recovery_Tune-Up_1553911x1208660375.htm Your funeral thank you notes will be easier to write when you follow these ten useful tips. Learn who gets a note and how long the note or card should be. Learn how to say thanks for monetary gifts in your time of need. Most importantly, learn how to get the help you deserve in this difficult time. Sat, 05 Apr 2008 23:48:47 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Funeral_Thank_You_Notes_-_10_Tips_And_Etiquette_Reminders_To_Make_Writing_Sympathy_Thank_Yous_Easier_1532433x1207453727.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Funeral_Thank_You_Notes_-_10_Tips_And_Etiquette_Reminders_To_Make_Writing_Sympathy_Thank_Yous_Easier_1532433x1207453727.htm The day I lost my husband my heart felt ripped out, a feeling I had never experienced before. I felt clarity in the moment and confusion over where I was going, all at the same time. I wanted to cry at the injustice of a widow at 47 years of age. Thu, 03 Apr 2008 02:25:16 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/A_Fresh_Journey_Through_Loss_1369830x1207203916.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/A_Fresh_Journey_Through_Loss_1369830x1207203916.htm Explores the concepts of grief and loss within the context of national and personal crisis. Provides suggestions for negotiating each stage and describes grief as a healing process. Sat, 29 Mar 2008 14:44:15 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Crisis_-_How_Will_You_Cope_1357764x1206816255.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Crisis_-_How_Will_You_Cope_1357764x1206816255.htm Along with the multiple deaths of loved ones, including the death of her husband, one woman received many unexpected gifts. Through the process of loss and grieving, she ultimately experienced a total transformation of consciousness, redirecting her life path in many positive and magical ways. Sun, 23 Mar 2008 12:39:31 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Death,_Grief_and_the_Magic_Carpet_Ride_1485651x1206290371.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Death,_Grief_and_the_Magic_Carpet_Ride_1485651x1206290371.htm How can an inspiring funeral poem help bring peace of mind and heart after a sudden death or loss of a loved one? Many people are very concerned with the fate and destiny of the deceased loved one. Is she safe? Is he happy? Will we ever meet or see or be with each other again? Here's how you can stay connected through death. Sun, 23 Mar 2008 10:23:38 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Funeral_Poem_to_Remember_Deceased_Loved_Ones_1312507x1206282218.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Funeral_Poem_to_Remember_Deceased_Loved_Ones_1312507x1206282218.htm When your closest childhood friend dies the grief is overwhelming. Read on to find out how to remember your loved one when they are suddenly taken away from you. Sun, 23 Mar 2008 08:21:03 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Losing_Your_Best_Friend_-_How_I_Am_Dealing_With_The_Loss_1332629x1206274863.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Losing_Your_Best_Friend_-_How_I_Am_Dealing_With_The_Loss_1332629x1206274863.htm According to the U.S Census Bureau, there are approximately 700,000 new widows every year. To me, this is staggering, and I never thought I'd be a statistic. I've been asked many times if I wrote A Journey Well Taken: Life After Loss while my husband was ill. As a caretaker, and even though I have been a writer for as long as I can recall, writing was the last thing on my mind while he was sick. Tue, 18 Mar 2008 17:38:13 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Why_We_Need_to_Talk_About_Grief_1381889x1205876293.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Why_We_Need_to_Talk_About_Grief_1381889x1205876293.htm Do children really grieve? How do I know if my child is grieving? What are some typical responses to loss? If you are asking yourself these questions, keep reading to learn more about children and the grief process. Tue, 11 Mar 2008 20:31:27 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Children_and_Grief_1262284x1205281887.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Children_and_Grief_1262284x1205281887.htm This article explores ways to communicate with those who are suffering from losses. It gives examples of religious explanations that are nonsensical and more adaptive ways of communicating our feelings to those who experience grief. Tue, 11 Mar 2008 04:10:26 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/How_To_Respond_To_Tragedy_1346473x1205223026.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/How_To_Respond_To_Tragedy_1346473x1205223026.htm The death of a fetus ought to be mourned as any other death. It is a "double death," including the loss of hopes for the future. Fri, 07 Mar 2008 11:13:08 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Her_Baby_Died_Before_Birth_and_No_One_Wants_to_Talk_About_It_1366706x1204906388.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Her_Baby_Died_Before_Birth_and_No_One_Wants_to_Talk_About_It_1366706x1204906388.htm Evaluate where you are Evaluate where you have been in your life and ask yourself, "Is this enough?" The beginning of the New Year is a great time for re-evaluating your life and plans. Tue, 04 Mar 2008 14:04:10 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Turning_Work_Into_Vocation_(New_Thoughts_For_A_New_Year)_1363616x1204657450.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Turning_Work_Into_Vocation_(New_Thoughts_For_A_New_Year)_1363616x1204657450.htm If you have ever lost someone close to you or if you've comforted someone who has, you're familiar with the feelings of helplessness and isolation grief can bring about. A dear friend of mine recently lost a sibling, and understandably looked to me for comfort. My strengths lie in the written word, rather than spoken word. For this reason, I chose to write her a poem expressing my sympathy. Mon, 03 Mar 2008 17:33:33 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Sympathy_Poems_Can_Help_Ease_The_Pain_of_Grief_1372785x1204583613.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Sympathy_Poems_Can_Help_Ease_The_Pain_of_Grief_1372785x1204583613.htm I became a widow at 47 years of age. I'd always thought my husband and I would be together forever, or at least a lot longer than 20 years. We have three boys, who at the time were 11, 18 and 19. I ran the gamut of emotions... shock, fear, an utter stillness of nothing, a frenzy of activity, and on and on. Mon, 03 Mar 2008 00:28:01 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/On_Becoming_a_Widow_1366703x1204522081.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/On_Becoming_a_Widow_1366703x1204522081.htm There are many unique and varied reactions to grief and loss. We may all react differently and yet the end result, many times, is the same. There is a sense of a gaping hole in our chest, a deep emptiness that at first nothing can fill. Tue, 26 Feb 2008 04:07:28 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Reacting_to_Loss_and_Grief_1366702x1204016848.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Reacting_to_Loss_and_Grief_1366702x1204016848.htm Losing someone you love can lead into depression and loneliness. However, with time, pain is healed and life is renewed again. Fri, 22 Feb 2008 07:54:28 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Dancing_with_the_Demon_of_Loneliness_1366704x1203684868.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Dancing_with_the_Demon_of_Loneliness_1366704x1203684868.htm Death eventually touches us all. May this article bring you peace. You are not alone. Tue, 19 Feb 2008 14:38:11 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/When_A_Light_Goes_Out_1272248x1203449891.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/When_A_Light_Goes_Out_1272248x1203449891.htm Writing an obituary isn't something most people want to be faced with having to do. If you find yourself having to write an obituary for someone, you may be wondering how to go about it effectively. You also may be wondering where to start, what to say, and how to say it eloquently, just to name a few concerns. In this guide, I'll show you how to write an obituary for a family member or friend in just four simple steps. Tue, 19 Feb 2008 00:53:04 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/How_To_Write_An_Obituary_In_Four_Steps_1372784x1203400384.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/How_To_Write_An_Obituary_In_Four_Steps_1372784x1203400384.htm An article in Readers Digest brought to attention a young college student named David Fajgenbaum. He founded an organization to help deal with his mothers death and in turn has helped thousands of college students. Here I give the highlights and resources for other students grieving. Mon, 18 Feb 2008 06:05:18 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Help_For_Grieving_College_Students_1522773x1203332718.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Help_For_Grieving_College_Students_1522773x1203332718.htm Believing in life after death offers a powerful and effective way to deal with the loss of your spouse. The death of a spouse is the hardest thing you will ever deal with in life. If you ever wonder how you will ever go on without being able to touch, laugh with or talk to that person again, read this article. Fri, 15 Feb 2008 00:17:32 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Life_After_Death_-_How_To_Cope_With_The_Death_Of_A_Spouse_1332628x1203052652.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Life_After_Death_-_How_To_Cope_With_The_Death_Of_A_Spouse_1332628x1203052652.htm I just got back from the wake of a thirteen-year-old girl who had no hope; she took a fatal combination of pills. What makes a child lose hope? Who decides how we should grieve? We each grieve and behave in our own ways. Perhaps if we all strive to have a little more compassion and understanding during difficult circumstances, will really make a difference in someone's life. Wed, 13 Feb 2008 22:57:53 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Grief,_Hope_and_Judgement_-_A_Lesson_In_Humanity_1369829x1202961473.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Grief,_Hope_and_Judgement_-_A_Lesson_In_Humanity_1369829x1202961473.htm The fact that you have suffered multiple losses does not mean you will not have more. How co you survive multiple losses? This article, by a health writer who has lost four loved ones, tells how she is coping and moving forward with life. Tue, 12 Feb 2008 00:05:53 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Another_Death_-_How_Much_Can_a_Family_Take_1116521x1202792753.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Another_Death_-_How_Much_Can_a_Family_Take_1116521x1202792753.htm When I first saw him, I thought he looked dreadfully skinny. He stood as tall as me, 5' 11", but seemed to weigh about half as much. His glasses were thick, like a plate glass window, which made his eyes small. His hair, full and unruly, looked more like the mane of a lion, the color of burnt sand. A true story of a colleague in this life and the next! Tue, 12 Feb 2008 00:02:49 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/I_Can_Hear_The_Drummin_1203586x1202792569.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/I_Can_Hear_The_Drummin_1203586x1202792569.htm At such a difficult time in your life writing sympathy thank you notes can seem overwhelming. Who gets a note? What do you write? Mon, 11 Feb 2008 09:06:51 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Sympathy_Thank_You_-_Etiquette_and_Ready_to_Copy_Sample_Letters_of_Sympathy_1366705x1202738811.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Sympathy_Thank_You_-_Etiquette_and_Ready_to_Copy_Sample_Letters_of_Sympathy_1366705x1202738811.htm One of the most important goals for artificial intelligence software programmers is to foster companionship between computers and humans. To do this the AI computers must appear to care and interact like humans do with one another. Emulating emotion and empathy is on its way right now. Sun, 10 Feb 2008 23:24:02 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Artificial_Intelligence_-_Emulation_of_Emotion_and_Empathy_1086324x1202703842.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Artificial_Intelligence_-_Emulation_of_Emotion_and_Empathy_1086324x1202703842.htm How does one bounce back from difficult situations? Few of us live a lifetime without tragedy striking. Someone unexpectedly loses their job, the doctor diagnoses a chronic disease, or our child veers into self-destructive behavior. The initial message might feel like a blow to our sense of security. As the world seems to spin out of control, how do we come to terms with our new reality? Fri, 08 Feb 2008 18:15:15 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Bounce_Back_from_Difficult_Situations_and_Thrive_1040203x1202512515.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Bounce_Back_from_Difficult_Situations_and_Thrive_1040203x1202512515.htm A state of loneliness or sadness is defined as bereavement. The cause for bereavement may be different for every person. A person is mostly in the state of bereavement when a person experiences loss of a person. The loss can be due to death, a person moving away forever, due to relation breakups, divorce for an example, loss of pets, loss of employment, etc. Tue, 05 Feb 2008 13:17:58 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Bereavement_-_Pain_and_Loss_1381887x1202235478.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Bereavement_-_Pain_and_Loss_1381887x1202235478.htm Yes, one way to deal with a loss is to selflessly open ourselves to others, and share the magic that lies within us. Our community has suffered a blow this week. Dr. Albert O'Mahony, a revered Clarenville family doctor for years, met an untimely death. Tue, 05 Feb 2008 08:59:09 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Survive_a_Loss_985392x1202219949.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Survive_a_Loss_985392x1202219949.htm Six steps I took in beginning the journey back into the mainstream of life. Use these ideas as stepping stones. There is no rush, but keep a steady pace! Don't look back. Start the dance into your new life. Sun, 03 Feb 2008 13:57:10 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Moving_Beyond_Grief_-_Begin_the_Journey,_Six_Powerful_Keys_to_Stepping_Back_Into_Life,_After_a_Loss_1253921x1202065030.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Moving_Beyond_Grief_-_Begin_the_Journey,_Six_Powerful_Keys_to_Stepping_Back_Into_Life,_After_a_Loss_1253921x1202065030.htm Souls choose the timing of their death according to a life-plan developed prior to incarnating. This life-plan serves the purposes of learning for the soul and for the embodied self. Sun, 03 Feb 2008 04:43:38 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Death_and_Dying_-_The_Passing_of_Souls_960120x1202031818.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Death_and_Dying_-_The_Passing_of_Souls_960120x1202031818.htm One organ donor can impact dozens of lives. Have you designated yourself as an organ donor? Has a loved one designated himself or herself? If so, you need to inform family members. You will learn more about the impact of organ donation in this article and how one grieving mother found comfort in it. Sun, 03 Feb 2008 03:42:28 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Grief_and_Comfort_of_Organ_Donation_970417x1202028148.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Grief_and_Comfort_of_Organ_Donation_970417x1202028148.htm Grief is a considerably painful experience but also a normal reaction to loss. It is almost certain that we will go through grief and loss at some time in our lives. Although it is a hurtful experience, grief provides us with the courage needed to deal with the problems we face in our day to day lives. Fri, 01 Feb 2008 02:53:52 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/10_Ways_to_Deal_With_Grief_and_Loss_1381888x1201852432.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/10_Ways_to_Deal_With_Grief_and_Loss_1381888x1201852432.htm Happy Holidays, Grieving Widows, five tips to help ! My first year as a widow was depressing, but I met the challenge to survive the pain. Yes, widows we can survive, thrive with FIVE tips to make it through to 2008. Tue, 29 Jan 2008 07:24:18 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Widows_Unite!_Grief_-_Five_Tips_to_Survive_the_Holidays_1116523x1201609458.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Widows_Unite!_Grief_-_Five_Tips_to_Survive_the_Holidays_1116523x1201609458.htm Remember those who have passed away but do not forget the forgotten heroes-those who are left behind-the Survivors. Their job is to figure out how to live when their family member has died. Mon, 28 Jan 2008 16:50:18 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Remember_Those_Who_Have_Passed_Away_and_Celebrate_the_Forgotten_Heroes_1073053x1201557018.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Remember_Those_Who_Have_Passed_Away_and_Celebrate_the_Forgotten_Heroes_1073053x1201557018.htm Everywhere we look now's the season to be HAPPY, GRATEFUL, AND Counting our Blessings. All that is true, BUT, is there room to express sadness, loss, and grief ? Sun, 27 Jan 2008 21:39:37 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Widows_-_Honor_The_Pain,_No_Need_To_Suck_It_Up_1232712x1201487977.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Widows_-_Honor_The_Pain,_No_Need_To_Suck_It_Up_1232712x1201487977.htm Why does a person take their own life? The choices we make to live or die occur in a moments notice. The shock and pain left behind for family members is long term. Is spirtuality enough? Thu, 24 Jan 2008 19:55:58 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/In_a_Moment_1094268x1201222558.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/In_a_Moment_1094268x1201222558.htm When my kids found the fish this morning, at first they were sad, but then they said it was ok because we could just go to the pet store and buy another one. With people, you don't get to go buy another one, but somehow you just know that life does go on. Wed, 23 Jan 2008 23:56:29 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/With_Death,_It_is_Ok_to_Live_949763x1201150589.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/With_Death,_It_is_Ok_to_Live_949763x1201150589.htm There is a great confusion about what is considered grief and loss these days, unfortunately the miss-understanding of grief and loss leaves people feeling depressed, anxiety filled and alone and they don't understand what's happening to them. I remember when I lost my father six years ago, a month later I thought something was wrong with me because I couldn't think straight, my thoughts were all jumbled and didn't know what was going on. Wed, 23 Jan 2008 18:57:02 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Dealing_With_Grief_and_Loss_807857x1201132622.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Dealing_With_Grief_and_Loss_807857x1201132622.htm How do I describe my Annie, but other than start at the beginning of how she chose me and came bounding into my life and heart 10 years ago. At that time Annie was an active hunt basset hound and her world consisted of being a member of a pack of 26 basset hounds that were bred for hunting, field trials and home life in a kennel. She was very well taken care of by her owner at that time. I was introduced to the owner by a good friend of mine, Brent Atwater, who knowing of my love of animals and looking for a place to live knew the owner was looking for someone to take care of the kennel and caretaker on a daily basis ... to include living in a wonderful restored farmhouse on the property. The situation was ideal for all concerned. Sun, 20 Jan 2008 22:08:26 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Annie_and_the_Angels_1381886x1200884906.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Annie_and_the_Angels_1381886x1200884906.htm Life happens whether we are ready for it or not, and in May 2005, my mom passed away after an extended illness. I'm not sure we are ever really prepared to lose a parent, especially Mom, who has loved and nurtured us all of our lives. Wed, 16 Jan 2008 14:33:15 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Bouncing_Back_-_Asking_For_Help_Through_Lifes_Setbacks_960119x1200511995.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Bouncing_Back_-_Asking_For_Help_Through_Lifes_Setbacks_960119x1200511995.htm It's taken me exactly 29 days to feel semi-healed from my shattered heart. The ex-girlfriend doesn't live in my mind 24/7 anymore. I can work again. I don't feel the cloud of sadness constantly hovering over me. I don't feel like I'm barely "a stutter of an inhale" away from breaking down. The tears have stopped. I can even view reminders and images of her without instantly feeling like I'm riding the downside of a steep roller coaster. Mutual, familiar songs no longer bite into my heart or knock the wind out of me. Tue, 15 Jan 2008 12:13:03 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Experiences_From_The_Flow_-_The_Grief_Letter_-_From_Heartbreak_To_Happiness_1116522x1200417183.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Experiences_From_The_Flow_-_The_Grief_Letter_-_From_Heartbreak_To_Happiness_1116522x1200417183.htm What do you do about these regrets? Do you dwell on them until they fester? Do you ask yourself, what can I do? Do these regrets stop you taking risks? Mon, 14 Jan 2008 05:22:36 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/How_To_Deal_With_Regrets_776008x1200306156.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/How_To_Deal_With_Regrets_776008x1200306156.htm We need to talk about life without those we love! We all lose someone we love. Sat, 12 Jan 2008 18:11:46 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Living_Without_Those_You_Love_1108326x1200179506.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Living_Without_Those_You_Love_1108326x1200179506.htm The death of a pet can be a truly sad and challenging time for children of all ages. Grief is the normal and natural reaction when a pet has died. Everyone, including children perceives loss differently. Grief is a very personal and unique experience. One of the most difficult tasks for grieving children is to learn how to incorporate the death of a pet into their life and to figure out how to go on living without them. Fri, 11 Jan 2008 23:53:08 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Helping_Children_Deal_with_Pet_Loss_1262283x1200113588.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Helping_Children_Deal_with_Pet_Loss_1262283x1200113588.htm Three dreams about three beautiful women, Judy, Deanna, and Susan, all of whom have passed away too early and too young. Susan said she could be in any tree she wanted and when she wanted to say hi, she would move the branches and the leaves would wave at me. Every time I see a tree move, I will wonder if maybe, just maybe, one of them is saying hi. Fri, 11 Jan 2008 09:06:27 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Judy,_Deanna,_And_Susan_-_Gone_Forever,_But_Not_Forgotten_807859x1200060387.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Judy,_Deanna,_And_Susan_-_Gone_Forever,_But_Not_Forgotten_807859x1200060387.htm The grieving process has given me time to reflect on my needs and how the people around me reacted during that very difficult time. I needed strength and comfort and what I observed was loving people that didn't know what to say. Most people have never learned any skills in how to support a loved one through grief. Fri, 11 Jan 2008 00:34:24 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Support_a_Loved_One_Through_Grief_1353683x1200029664.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Support_a_Loved_One_Through_Grief_1353683x1200029664.htm Well, that is it. It is done. The heart monitor has flat lined and the respirator is sounding the end of another life, for all to hear. Now, what lies before me is the shell of the most precious and beautiful woman I have ever known. Her color is still pinkish and her skin warm and supple. Her bobbed brunette hair lay gently around her shoulders and her eyes are closed. She is now, asleep, and will never awake. Her pain and suffering have ended and she may now be at peace. Wed, 09 Jan 2008 15:28:48 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Death_Of_My_Heart_785435x1199910528.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Death_Of_My_Heart_785435x1199910528.htm Most are unprepared to deal with a time of loss or change. Strong feelings emerge and many respond with fear, anger or denial. It takes a while to absorb what has happened and learn how to handle both the situation and emotions in a healthy, constructive way. This article describes the dynamics of loss and change and offers specific guidelines for handling feelings which are healing. Wed, 02 Jan 2008 17:10:26 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Journey_Through_Loss_and_Change_1210732x1199311826.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Journey_Through_Loss_and_Change_1210732x1199311826.htm When we outgrow our need for our bodies, we transform and exist in a different form. We are not gone; we are changed. Wed, 02 Jan 2008 11:04:53 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/A_Butterfly_Brings_My_Mother_Home_797217x1199289893.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/A_Butterfly_Brings_My_Mother_Home_797217x1199289893.htm It only takes a matter of seconds for the world to become frightening and dangerous. The trauma of injuries and accidents can be devastating to those injured and the people close to them. Wed, 02 Jan 2008 00:05:34 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Cope_With_Trauma_960118x1199250334.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Cope_With_Trauma_960118x1199250334.htm Most experts agree that anticipation of a holiday and what is expected is almost always worse than actually experiencing the day. There are many unrealistic expectations at holiday time. Here are 10 things you can do, that have been used by others through the years, which will help you deal with your grief and reduce unnecessary suffering. Mon, 31 Dec 2007 21:02:50 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/10_Ways_to_Manage_Your_Grief_at_Holiday_Time_1187261x1199152970.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/10_Ways_to_Manage_Your_Grief_at_Holiday_Time_1187261x1199152970.htm Dealing With Grief....Life can throw some major curve balls and we have no other choice but to deal with them. Sun, 30 Dec 2007 19:44:02 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Learning_How_You_Can_Start_Over_801361x1199061842.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Learning_How_You_Can_Start_Over_801361x1199061842.htm At this time of monumental change on Earth, the challenges of life have become more accelerated, and there are a growing number of people who are experiencing despair and a loss of hope. When we encounter situations of challenge and difficulty that feel so extreme, that we do not know how we are going to get through them. Sun, 30 Dec 2007 14:13:29 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Healing_Despair_and_the_Loss_of_Hope_960117x1199042009.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Healing_Despair_and_the_Loss_of_Hope_960117x1199042009.htm At the end of the day, do take some time for yourself. You will need to find ways to balance the needs of others with the needs of the self. In the end, you will notice that one of the greatest gifts we do have to give to others is to give our lives away knowing we have helped another person's day a little bit better. This will also meet your own need to fulfill your reason for living or purpose in life. Sun, 30 Dec 2007 12:53:09 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Caring_About_Others_908935x1199037189.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Caring_About_Others_908935x1199037189.htm Many grief experts tell their clients to document their bereavement in descriptive words, phrases, a diary or journal. This is good advice, but how can you do it when you are overcome with grief. This article, by a writer who has suffered multiple losses, tells how she found the time to write and why she does it. Sat, 29 Dec 2007 06:25:22 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Writing_Your_Way_Through_Grief_1203585x1198927522.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Writing_Your_Way_Through_Grief_1203585x1198927522.htm There are many seemingly unrelated experiences that commonly trigger much grieving that can go on for several days. This often happens months, sometimes years, after the death of a loved one. Here's what you need to know when something you see, hear, smell or experience brings back the pain of your loss. Fri, 28 Dec 2007 06:45:22 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Deal_with_Grief_Triggers_Long_After_the_Death_of_a_Loved_One_1262282x1198842322.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Deal_with_Grief_Triggers_Long_After_the_Death_of_a_Loved_One_1262282x1198842322.htm I attended the unfurling of the AIDS quilt and by doing so, re-experienced the pain of the loss of my dear friend Danny. I reconnected with myself and redeemed a part of my self that had been lost for many years. Sun, 23 Dec 2007 11:46:05 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Soul_Redemption_-_Connecting_To_The_Death_Of_A_Friend_817727x1198428365.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Soul_Redemption_-_Connecting_To_The_Death_Of_A_Friend_817727x1198428365.htm After my husband died, I tried to overcompensate for my grieving state by indulging in some "Christmas Cheer". When you are tempted to have another glass of wine, consider that alcohol is a depressant. Fri, 21 Dec 2007 17:27:28 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Beware_Too_Much_Christmas_Cheer!_1262285x1198276048.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Beware_Too_Much_Christmas_Cheer!_1262285x1198276048.htm Disappointment isn't something we like to talk about it can affect us deeply just the same. Here are some helpful tips to help you deal with disappointment that can lead to freedom. Mon, 17 Dec 2007 16:49:01 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Dealing_With_Disappointment_807858x1197928141.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Dealing_With_Disappointment_807858x1197928141.htm Years ago psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross determined five stages of grief. You have probably heard about them or experienced them. The stages were widely accepted by health professionals and the public. But this author, who is recovering from multiple losses, sees the stages differently. Read this article and learn how multiple losses change the stages and duration of grief. Sat, 15 Dec 2007 06:13:02 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Multiple_Losses_Throw_Off_The_Stages_and_Timing_of_Grief_1027258x1197717182.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Multiple_Losses_Throw_Off_The_Stages_and_Timing_of_Grief_1027258x1197717182.htm On one occasion, I was asked to go into a room and be with a daughter whose Mom was dying. Mom was expected to die not long after I was to enter the room. When I went into the room, the daughter was at her Mom's bedside. She did die not long after I had entered the room. Her husband was on his way to be with his wife and daughter of this patient. He did not make it in time Fri, 14 Dec 2007 18:43:31 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Power_of_Prayer_to_Heal_1053701x1197675811.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Power_of_Prayer_to_Heal_1053701x1197675811.htm Holidays are sometimes difficult because those who are older may be grieving the holidays of the past. We would like to return to the "old days" when we were in control. But don't let wanting "what used to be" turn into a holiday this year of "what might have been." Fri, 14 Dec 2007 11:14:10 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Grieving_for_What_Used_to_Be_During_the_Holidays_1210733x1197648850.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Grieving_for_What_Used_to_Be_During_the_Holidays_1210733x1197648850.htm Celebrating the life of a loved one can be done in different ways. This article discusses a variety of memorial and funeral options that families may want to consider as they grieve for their loved one. Fri, 14 Dec 2007 08:16:53 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Memorial_Services_-_Using_Poems_and_Untraditional_Methods_to_Remember_Someones_Life_776006x1197638213.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Memorial_Services_-_Using_Poems_and_Untraditional_Methods_to_Remember_Someones_Life_776006x1197638213.htm A long time ago but not so far away, lived a girl and a boy very much in love. Gino was tall and handsome with rich brown hair and eyes, good strong Italian looks. Elana was elegant with long sable hair, a classic Greek beauty, her once slender figure swollen with their first child. Only nineteen, she became concerned when she noticed some blood and called her doctor. Her flustered young husband took her straight to the emergency room. After filling out the necessary paperwork, she was examined by the nurse and labor was induced by the doctor's order. Yet the doctor never saw her and the nurse was the only one running the emergency room that night. Thu, 13 Dec 2007 11:33:28 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Losing_A_Child_-_How_Despair_Transforms_You_830255x1197563608.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Losing_A_Child_-_How_Despair_Transforms_You_830255x1197563608.htm A funeral director is of best help to the relatives and friends of a deceased person, who assists in preparing the body, planning transport of the body to burial/cremation venue and in planning the ceremony. They must possess different positive traits like people management and administration skills, composure and willingness to work long, odd hours. He or she is also available on call 24 hours a day and 365 days a year. Wed, 12 Dec 2007 04:23:20 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Funeral_Director_690392x1197451400.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Funeral_Director_690392x1197451400.htm Creating a virtual memorial is an easy, low cost, and deeply personal way of keeping the memory of your loved one alive. Sun, 09 Dec 2007 21:39:34 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Value_of_Virtual_Memorials_672750x1197254374.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Value_of_Virtual_Memorials_672750x1197254374.htm Like the Phoenix, surviving the despair brought on by suddenly becoming a widow, life goes on. Two years ago, my husband of more than 20 years died as a result of surgical error. Yeah, the nightmare of dropping him off for same day outpatient surgery and burying him four days later. Sat, 08 Dec 2007 20:06:06 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Soaring_Above_the_Ashes_of_Despair_1040204x1197162366.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Soaring_Above_the_Ashes_of_Despair_1040204x1197162366.htm If you've ever been in the receiving line at a funeral, you most likely have heard people say the most inane comments. Forgive them; they're doing their best to comfort you...they just don't know how. Sat, 08 Dec 2007 11:55:22 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/So_What_DO_You_Say_731137x1197132922.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/So_What_DO_You_Say_731137x1197132922.htm Views of cremation vary by religion and culture. In the U.S., the practice is becoming more common, and cost is just one of the reasons. Thu, 06 Dec 2007 04:46:49 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Cremation_and_Culture_658565x1196934409.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Cremation_and_Culture_658565x1196934409.htm Forgetfulness is a common response to grief. This article tells how the author lost an egg and explains some of the causes of forgetfulness. Thu, 06 Dec 2007 00:14:37 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Responding_to_Grief_--_How_Do_You_Lose_An_Egg_646522x1196918077.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Responding_to_Grief_--_How_Do_You_Lose_An_Egg_646522x1196918077.htm All of us must cope with the loss of a loved one. You may be so overcome with grief you don't know what to do. Should you have a memorial service? Will there be food after the service? Who will come? Having a memorial dinner in honor of your loved one answers these questions and will bring you comfort. Mon, 03 Dec 2007 17:11:35 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Honor_Your_Loved_Ones_Memory_With_a_Favorite_Foods_Dinner_637858x1196719895.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Honor_Your_Loved_Ones_Memory_With_a_Favorite_Foods_Dinner_637858x1196719895.htm The holiday season can be particularly difficult when it coincides with a loss. We present a few practical tips on staying healthy while grieving. Sun, 02 Dec 2007 21:40:43 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Taking_Care_of_Yourself_While_Grieving_1094267x1196649643.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Taking_Care_of_Yourself_While_Grieving_1094267x1196649643.htm Psychology and the social sciences have shown time and time again the importance of expressing, in some form, what is happening inside when you are mourning the death of a loved one; it can actually save your life. If you have been trained by the authority figures in your life to suppress your feelings or if you are unable to cry (much to do with unconscious beliefs) when one might be expected to do so, consider the following. Sun, 02 Dec 2007 17:19:31 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Why_You_Need_to_Express_Emotion_686490x1196633971.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Why_You_Need_to_Express_Emotion_686490x1196633971.htm Can't stop crying? Three tidbits of advice help hurting people regain hope and find the strength they need to continue healing. Sun, 02 Dec 2007 16:19:05 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/What_to_Do_(and_Not_Do)_When_You_Hurt_776007x1196630345.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/What_to_Do_(and_Not_Do)_When_You_Hurt_776007x1196630345.htm This article is about the steps I proceeded to follow to deal with my mother and her long term illness, then dealing with going through the five stages of grief after she lost her battle with Emphysemia. The thing I really learned from this experience about a loved one being terminally ill, is that I as others not only grieve the anticipation of their death, we grieve for the loss of them in our lives and we grieve for our own mortality. Sun, 02 Dec 2007 15:10:53 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Dealing_With_The_Loss_Of_A_Loved_One_672751x1196626253.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Dealing_With_The_Loss_Of_A_Loved_One_672751x1196626253.htm Regardless of the way we consider a specific loss in our lives, it can provide the setting for learning more about ourselves and the world in which we live. But do we really take advantage of the lessons that loss teaches, the spiritual and psychological development that is always available in transformation? Here is what many have learned that might help us better accept what we cannot control, and reduce self-imposed suffering. Sat, 01 Dec 2007 12:20:42 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Opportunities_and_Gifts_From_Great_Losses_637859x1196529642.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Opportunities_and_Gifts_From_Great_Losses_637859x1196529642.htm Our culture is notoriously neglectful when it comes to teaching about loss and change. In a day and age in which technology rules, the meaning and importance of dealing with the aftermath of massive changes is left to pure chance. We can start reversing this trend by helping our children balance the negative cultural view about grief. What can we teach them, and some adults, about the universal response to the loss of something valued? Here are five concepts to be developed and talked about. Fri, 30 Nov 2007 18:08:39 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Five_Things_to_Teach_Children_(And_Some_Adults)_about_Grief_731136x1196464119.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Five_Things_to_Teach_Children_(And_Some_Adults)_about_Grief_731136x1196464119.htm We have become a rushed society. Every technological gadget which has been designed to improve our lives has in reality robbed us of the human art of pausing, most significantly encountered in the pause that must occur upon the loss of a close entity. Whether it is the discontinuation of a relationship or the abrupt end to a partner's life, we do not know what kind of reaction will hit us until the event occurs. We often view the most manly of men, from soldiers to firemen to policemen choking back the tears as they seek to honor fallen comrades. Fri, 30 Nov 2007 09:53:55 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Nature_of_Grieving_970418x1196434435.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Nature_of_Grieving_970418x1196434435.htm The more you are attuned to your loved ones feelings, the more you can truly give what is helpful for them in their time of need. Keeping the comfort and solace you offer simple helps you to remain involved with an open ear and an understanding heart without becoming a rescuer. Thu, 29 Nov 2007 20:25:04 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Offer_Comfort_and_Solace_-_The_Best_Formula_817729x1196385904.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Offer_Comfort_and_Solace_-_The_Best_Formula_817729x1196385904.htm The California Wildfires of 2007 took out over 1,000 structures, but the fast acting and professional fire fighters saved the rest. How does one thank the fire fighters that saved their business, home or life's work? Well, the Online Think Tank sat down and discussed this and our recommendation is to buy a $500 Starbucks card for your local fire department to use. Wed, 28 Nov 2007 20:51:10 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Thank_the_Local_Fire_Fighters_Who_Saved_Your_Home_or_Business_785436x1196301070.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Thank_the_Local_Fire_Fighters_Who_Saved_Your_Home_or_Business_785436x1196301070.htm Two loved ones died unexpectedly this week. Imagine allowing the grieving thoughts to subside for a few minutes each day and the relief that that would bring. What a blessing! Wed, 28 Nov 2007 15:11:14 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Grief_and_Meditation_731135x1196280674.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Grief_and_Meditation_731135x1196280674.htm When things happen to us or to someone we love, we try to provide as much support as possible. However, while doing this, we need to remember to take care of ourselves in the process. Wed, 28 Nov 2007 15:10:42 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/There_is_Support_and_Nourishment_For_Those_Who_Are_Grieving!_1220705x1196280642.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/There_is_Support_and_Nourishment_For_Those_Who_Are_Grieving!_1220705x1196280642.htm Unavoidable suffering is a condition of existence, a part of the mystery that shrouds every life. It is usually the result of broken attachments to those we love or the loss of something cherished. It cannot be prevented because death and perpetual change are uncontrollable givens of living. Here is how others have eased their suffering. These approaches can be lessons for your own confrontations with unavoidable distress. Tue, 27 Nov 2007 09:00:06 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Cope_With_Unavoidable_Suffering_791274x1196172006.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Cope_With_Unavoidable_Suffering_791274x1196172006.htm The death of a loved one can be overwhelming. You ask yourself basic questions and wonder if you will ever be happy again. This article, by a writer who has had multiple deaths in the family, describes her "Happy Birthday." Sun, 25 Nov 2007 14:37:57 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Having_a_Happy_Birthday_After_a_Loved_One_Dies_682901x1196019477.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Having_a_Happy_Birthday_After_a_Loved_One_Dies_682901x1196019477.htm Crying is the first response to the death of a loved one. You may cry for days, weeks, and even months. But crying is physically and emotionally exhausting. When does the crying stop? This article, by a writer who has suffered multiple losses, is an attempt to answer that question. Sun, 25 Nov 2007 07:24:57 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Loss_and_Grief_--_When_Does_the_Crying_Stop_655657x1195993497.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Loss_and_Grief_--_When_Does_the_Crying_Stop_655657x1195993497.htm Celebrants provide personalized alternative funeral services for families who do not want to have a traditional religious service. Fri, 23 Nov 2007 08:29:06 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Funeral_Celebrants_626505x1195824546.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Funeral_Celebrants_626505x1195824546.htm This time of year is often hard for those who are newly single. Whether your newly single status is the result of a break-up, divorce or death; and whether or not it was your decision, the Holidays can magnify sadness and feelings of loss.Here are some easy things you can do to help you get through and maybe even enjoy the upcoming Holiday Season. Tue, 20 Nov 2007 09:58:23 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Suggestions_On_Getting_Through_The_Holidays_For_The_Newly_Single_Person_908934x1195570703.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Suggestions_On_Getting_Through_The_Holidays_For_The_Newly_Single_Person_908934x1195570703.htm For the individual choosing the music for a funeral, some questions must be answered. Mon, 19 Nov 2007 01:23:09 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Choosing_The_Right_Funeral_Music_622044x1195453389.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Choosing_The_Right_Funeral_Music_622044x1195453389.htm Death and dying are the last social taboo. People are afraid to talk about these subjects because they deal with the ultimate in losing control. We don't know when or how we are going to die so we avoid dealing with it at all. Sun, 18 Nov 2007 21:44:08 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Death_-_The_Ultimate_Fear_672749x1195440248.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Death_-_The_Ultimate_Fear_672749x1195440248.htm We are surrounded by the unseen in many ways, not the least of which is the power of something greater than the self, which consistently and mysteriously operates in the universe. This ancient concept is critical to contemplate when mourning the death of a loved one. Consider the following in strengthening your resolve to cope with your great loss and to realize you are not alone in your journey. Sun, 18 Nov 2007 13:00:24 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Why_You_Are_Never_Alone,_Especially_When_Mourning_613049x1195408824.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Why_You_Are_Never_Alone,_Especially_When_Mourning_613049x1195408824.htm After the loss of a pregnancy or infant, family and friends are usually unsure how to support them. There is no end to grieving the loss of a baby at any stage, one just finds a way to walk forward with the memory of their child that left too soon. Sun, 18 Nov 2007 02:10:06 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Do_I_Have_to_Bury_Him_817728x1195369806.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Do_I_Have_to_Bury_Him_817728x1195369806.htm Sending a sympathy card to someone after the death of a loved one has become common practice. Do the cards make a difference? This article, by a grieving person who has suffered multiple losses, describes the new comfort she found in cards when she read them again. Sat, 17 Nov 2007 04:13:36 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/When_You_Read_the_Sympathy_Cards_Again_and_Cry_949761x1195290816.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/When_You_Read_the_Sympathy_Cards_Again_and_Cry_949761x1195290816.htm It is commonly believed that the sorrow of bereaved parents is greater than any other grief known. The loss of a child is equivalent to losing a part of themselves and they feel that a vital part of them has been torn apart. Fri, 16 Nov 2007 19:02:21 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Understanding_Parental_Grief_949760x1195257741.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Understanding_Parental_Grief_949760x1195257741.htm The grief over the sudden loss of my father had become a daily source of sadness for me until I discovered memory writing. The writing of a particularly cherished memory took me from heartache to happiness in celebrating life - his and mine. Anyone who has the wish to remember and cherish a shared time with a loved one they have lost can take the same steps I took to let go of grief. Fri, 16 Nov 2007 13:45:18 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Letting_Go_of_Grief_708857x1195238718.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Letting_Go_of_Grief_708857x1195238718.htm Recovering from grief and loss is a journey. This journey includes "anniversary reactions," times when the bereaved person relives his or her loss again and experiences the same feelings. Anniversary reactions are extremely painful. This article tells how one health writer is preparing for the anniversary reactions that await her. Fri, 16 Nov 2007 09:04:43 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Coping_With_the_Anniversary_Reactions_That_Come_With_Grief_736630x1195221883.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Coping_With_the_Anniversary_Reactions_That_Come_With_Grief_736630x1195221883.htm Every year we should all give some time to remember the fallen, especially on Veterans/Armistice Day. What did you do on the 11th November? Fri, 16 Nov 2007 03:49:10 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Remembering_the_Fallen_949762x1195202950.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Remembering_the_Fallen_949762x1195202950.htm Finding opportunities to be of service to others has eased the heavy burden of coping with the death of a loved one. Stop-don't dismiss this off hand, before giving it an honest try. You can't help another without helping yourself. It all begins with having sincere intent to serve and embrace the truth that making the world a better place is worth the effort. Here is how it will help you in coping with your loss. Thu, 15 Nov 2007 06:25:09 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/An_Ancient_Coping_Strategy_That_Still_Works_624396x1195125909.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/An_Ancient_Coping_Strategy_That_Still_Works_624396x1195125909.htm Speaking from personal experience, when your heart is broken it's hard to move forward in life. You get stuck in a funk that feels nearly impossible to shake. If you are "there" please let me share "how to" create a loving support system. Then do it. Please. Wed, 14 Nov 2007 19:24:53 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Surround_Yourself_with_Support_to_Overcome_a_Broken_Heart_690391x1195086293.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Surround_Yourself_with_Support_to_Overcome_a_Broken_Heart_690391x1195086293.htm Fear of the unknown is among the most common, and most difficult, grief-related issues to deal with. Why is this so? Because uncertainty is an integral part of life that is ignored by most until it forces us to confront it. Then the choice is: either learn to live one day at a time (perhaps one minute at a time) or allow the unknown to fill us with crippling fear and freeze us. Here's what can we do to deal with fear of the future, the unknown. Sun, 11 Nov 2007 02:23:09 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Facing_the_Unknown_after_the_Death_of_a_Loved_One_605254x1194765789.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Facing_the_Unknown_after_the_Death_of_a_Loved_One_605254x1194765789.htm It used to be that, when you suffered a pet loss, the only choice you had was to bury your beloved pet in your back yard. This may be nice on one hand, because you can be close to your pet, but on the other hand, it may be harder to get over your pet's death. Because there will always be a visible reminder right outside your door. Fri, 09 Nov 2007 22:11:07 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/A_Message_From_Rainbow_Bridge_725221x1194664267.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/A_Message_From_Rainbow_Bridge_725221x1194664267.htm Losing a child is the most tragic experience on this earth. The emptiness is overwhelming along with the motivation to go on. When your child's spirit becomes visible, your world has meaning again. That is what happened with us and our sweet baby boy, Tanner. Fri, 09 Nov 2007 14:04:54 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Stillborn_And_Still_Here_704926x1194635094.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Stillborn_And_Still_Here_704926x1194635094.htm Have you ever had someone tell you, "You should be over it by now?" The "it" meaning, the death of your loved one, a divorce, or even the breakup of a long time friendship, for whatever the reason. All too often, those supporting the bereaved try to hurry them along when in fact grief follows its own course. Here is why grief takes so much longer than we have been conditioned to believe. Fri, 09 Nov 2007 12:10:47 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Getting_Through_Grief_Takes_Longer_Than_Most_People_Think_603554x1194628247.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Getting_Through_Grief_Takes_Longer_Than_Most_People_Think_603554x1194628247.htm Grief occurs in response to the loss of someone or something. Grief itself is a normal and natural response to loss. It is important to realize that acknowledging the grief promotes the healing process. Time and support facilitate the grieving process, allowing an opportunity to appropriately mourn the loss. Stages of grief: It is important to note that stages of grief exist; however, they do Thu, 08 Nov 2007 09:52:39 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Five_Stages_Of_Grief_678701x1194533559.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Five_Stages_Of_Grief_678701x1194533559.htm The first shifts toward gratitude came weeks later, when I met an emergency room nurse who told me how close I came to dying...how fortunate I was to be alive and to have so many gifts that I had left unopened. My attitude about being shot completely changed. My sense of loss got lost in my gratitude. Consider the following passage from Og Mandino's book, The Greatest Miracle In The World. If you're like me, even if you're in the midst of devastating change and challenge, your sense of loss will be lightened by a sense of wonder and gratitude for the gifts you possess right now. Tue, 06 Nov 2007 20:35:29 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Find_Happiness_During_Devastating_Change,_Challenge,_And_Adversity_With_The_Attitude_Of_Gratitude_607037x1194399329.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Find_Happiness_During_Devastating_Change,_Challenge,_And_Adversity_With_The_Attitude_Of_Gratitude_607037x1194399329.htm Does your family drive you crazy? Erma Bombeck once joked that insanity is hereditary-you get it from your kids. Maybe your parents are being the problem, payback for your time as a teenager. Sometimes it seems like the Creator had some big idea to make sure we are born to the wrong family just so we can have an adventure discovering who our true family is. Tue, 06 Nov 2007 15:34:35 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Cup_of_Forgiveness_791275x1194381275.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Cup_of_Forgiveness_791275x1194381275.htm There's nothing in this world like your mom and your dad. I was born at Wayne county hospital in Wayne Michigan to Mr. Henry Ellsworth Grim and Mrs. Linda Grim. I had an older brother named Henry Grim Jr. My mom had 10 kids in her family and dad had 9 in his. Tue, 06 Nov 2007 05:35:20 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Cancer_Story_-_Dealing_with_Cancer_in_the_Family_&_Death_from_Cancer_801363x1194345320.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Cancer_Story_-_Dealing_with_Cancer_in_the_Family_&_Death_from_Cancer_801363x1194345320.htm Don't think you must forget about Him and all your golden memories in order to survive. As Pussy, that Sopranos character of Cable TV fame says, "Fuggeddaboudit." It is time for a new thought, dear widow: Think, I will love Him forever. Because when someone dies, the love we have for that person doesn't. Tue, 06 Nov 2007 03:47:12 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/For_Widows_Only_-_5_Donts_to_Remember_When_Living_Life_After_Burying_Him_620016x1194338832.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/For_Widows_Only_-_5_Donts_to_Remember_When_Living_Life_After_Burying_Him_620016x1194338832.htm Widowed AND Divorced people suffer grief when they lose a spouse, and the grief can be incredible. Normally some would not think a divorce would bring about grief, but Elizabeth Kubler-Ross says that the 5 stages of grief apply to broken marriages and relationships as well as the death of a loved one. Learn about the 5 stages of grief and things to do to make them less painful. Mon, 05 Nov 2007 13:27:19 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Widowed_or_Divorced,_The_Grief_is_Incredible_-_5_Dos,_5_Donts,_5_Realities_607036x1194287239.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Widowed_or_Divorced,_The_Grief_is_Incredible_-_5_Dos,_5_Donts,_5_Realities_607036x1194287239.htm Often people wonder about the expression soul loss, is it really possible for someone to lose part of their soul? It is a term used in Shamanism when someone becomes disconnected with a part of them or they simply don't feel like themselves. Mon, 05 Nov 2007 07:20:19 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/What_is_Soul_Loss_642330x1194265219.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/What_is_Soul_Loss_642330x1194265219.htm Has a tragedy or loss affected you in such a way that it caused you to be bitter? This is a story about hope, love and encouragement for anyone who may be going through trials. Please Read Mon, 05 Nov 2007 04:02:13 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Dont_Call_Me_Naomi_776005x1194253333.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Dont_Call_Me_Naomi_776005x1194253333.htm A person in grief can become depressed. They feel alone and helpless to change the mental stew they are swimming in. Grief is oppressive, it seems in control and causes a veil of pressure that is hard to comprehend, much less, remove. Loved ones and friend who are aware, should suggest a physical exam and one on one counseling, if the person will cooperate. Compassion, rather than demands, is the necessary tactic here. Mon, 05 Nov 2007 00:48:59 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Grief_On_Your_Plate_Depressed_Stewing_In_Your_Own_Juices_650600x1194241739.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Grief_On_Your_Plate_Depressed_Stewing_In_Your_Own_Juices_650600x1194241739.htm Bereavement is one of those subjects that is difficult to talk and write about. Each of us deals with grief in different ways. But we can use our experience to help and support others. Sun, 04 Nov 2007 02:21:37 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/Milestones_592881x1194160897.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Milestones_592881x1194160897.htm So many leave their funeral arrangements to chance and incompetent relatives. Why not take a hand in your own funeral arrangements, thus ensuring a more successful and enjoyable occasion for those left behind? Sun, 04 Nov 2007 02:10:41 -0500 http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Funeral_Plan_620015x1194160241.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Funeral_Plan_620015x1194160241.htm When a loved one dies family members and friends tell us to "stay busy." Why do they stay this? Does staying busy help you cope with grief? This author is staying busy and tells how it is helping her. If you are mourning the loss of a loved one staying busy may help you. Fri, 02 Nov 2007 10:43:56 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Staying_Busy_Makes_My_Grief_Journey_Easier_801362x1194014636.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Staying_Busy_Makes_My_Grief_Journey_Easier_801362x1194014636.htm Ambiguous losses are shrouded in uncertainty, seem to go on forever, and show no signs of ending. They are much more prevalent than the general public realizes, and cause much confusion for would be caregivers who try to provide support for the bereaved. Whether you are a caregiver or experiencing an uncertain loss, greater understanding of them and what can be done to cope with them will limit their devastating effects. Fri, 02 Nov 2007 05:30:05 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Ambiguous_Losses_that_Bring_Unresolved_and_Ongoing_Grief_601306x1193995805.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Ambiguous_Losses_that_Bring_Unresolved_and_Ongoing_Grief_601306x1193995805.htm You just can't take moaning moping and moving around like a big Moby Dick any more. Seems everybody's got a life except you. Thu, 01 Nov 2007 23:38:11 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/For_Widows_Only_-_After_You_Bury_Your_Husband_1_Tip_How_To_Bury_Your_Past_616851x1193974691.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/For_Widows_Only_-_After_You_Bury_Your_Husband_1_Tip_How_To_Bury_Your_Past_616851x1193974691.htm Writing an obituary is something like recalling all the memorable moments of the person at the time of their death. Visit our website today for some of the sample obituary formats to help you on how to write an obituary. Thu, 01 Nov 2007 05:50:56 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Understanding_Bipolar_Disorder_646523x1193910656.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Understanding_Bipolar_Disorder_646523x1193910656.htm I was fortunate enough to witness a cremation ceremony in Bali. My views of grief have changed drastically....and for the better! Wed, 31 Oct 2007 08:34:56 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/A_Powerful_Celebration_in_Bali_626506x1193834096.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/A_Powerful_Celebration_in_Bali_626506x1193834096.htm Take a nap. For crying out loud, worrying and burying a man is a lot of stress. It will tax your energy even on a good day. So be sure to schedule a time. Then lay down, lady, take a load off your feet, get some rest. Wed, 31 Oct 2007 05:03:53 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/For_the_Newly-Widowed_-_7_Essential_Tips_to_Help_You_Through_the_Grief_Process_584228x1193821433.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/For_the_Newly-Widowed_-_7_Essential_Tips_to_Help_You_Through_the_Grief_Process_584228x1193821433.htm The grieving process is oftentimes deterred by outside influences, keeping one stuck in a cycle of grief for years. The good news is that this does not have to be the case. Mon, 29 Oct 2007 01:26:52 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Joy_While_Grieving_620018x1193635612.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Joy_While_Grieving_620018x1193635612.htm Experts on loneliness tell us the key to dealing with it is a concerted effort at self-development and working on the quality of your inner life. This is especially difficult to do if your identity was completely enmeshed with the person who died. It is critical that you make a concerted effort to drop all of the pseudo-beliefs and assumptions you may have adopted about loneliness from the culture in which you live. The power of those beliefs is enormous and will heavily influence how you adjust to your new surroundings. Here are some of the most damaging. Sun, 28 Oct 2007 19:04:06 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Beliefs_That_Maximize_Loneliness_after_the_Death_of_a_Loved_One_592879x1193612646.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Beliefs_That_Maximize_Loneliness_after_the_Death_of_a_Loved_One_592879x1193612646.htm Remember that first big breakup you just could not get over for the life of you? It lingered for months and even years. Maybe this is happening to you now and you don't know why it just won't go away? This is not necessarily because of the person, but it has to do with our brain. Sun, 28 Oct 2007 06:47:21 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Emotional_Stress_And_Memory_-_Why_We_Cannot_Get_Over_Some_Episodes_in_Life_725223x1193568441.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Emotional_Stress_And_Memory_-_Why_We_Cannot_Get_Over_Some_Episodes_in_Life_725223x1193568441.htm When bad things happen we can sink into an abyss or find ways to survive and thrive. Let this story be an inspiration during the tough times. Sat, 27 Oct 2007 05:14:15 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/When_Bad_Things_Happen_628384x1193476455.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/When_Bad_Things_Happen_628384x1193476455.htm When I heard the beastly growl, all the hairs on my body stood up on end. At seven months pregnant, how could I ever think that it was my husband? Wed, 24 Oct 2007 09:57:17 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Traveling_Through_Grief_-_My_Personal_Story_652507x1193234237.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Traveling_Through_Grief_-_My_Personal_Story_652507x1193234237.htm Forgiveness is never easy but it is particularly challenging when the person has hurt and harmed you and has already passed away. How do you avoid not becoming bitter? How do you cut the bond between you and the past and set yourself free? What do you need to do so that you will not create a victim mentality? Tue, 23 Oct 2007 04:08:43 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Do_I_Ever_Forgive_A_Troublemaker_633889x1193126923.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Do_I_Ever_Forgive_A_Troublemaker_633889x1193126923.htm It's not easy losing a husband. On the long list of ugly, losing a spouse rockets to the top--One day we are a couple, next day, a lonely-only. And getting through the grief process sucks. Mon, 22 Oct 2007 22:26:00 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/For_Widows_Only_-_5_Dos_to_Remember_When_Getting_Through_the_Grief_Process_655659x1193106360.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/For_Widows_Only_-_5_Dos_to_Remember_When_Getting_Through_the_Grief_Process_655659x1193106360.htm Forgiveness is never easy particularly if you feel that someone has hurt and harmed you. But it is the only way to set yourself free from the events in the past. As you well know there is no future in the past. Nothing will change the past but you have the power to choose wheather or not to live in the past. Sun, 21 Oct 2007 18:43:23 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Can_I_Forgive_My_In-Laws_For_Not_Letting_Me_Know_My_Husbands_Last_Resting_Place_633890x1193006603.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Can_I_Forgive_My_In-Laws_For_Not_Letting_Me_Know_My_Husbands_Last_Resting_Place_633890x1193006603.htm Did you brush your teeth, comb your hair, wash your face today? Sun, 21 Oct 2007 00:26:14 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/For_Widows_Only_-_1_Secret_Tip_-_For_Being_The_Best_You_Can_Be_592884x1192940774.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/For_Widows_Only_-_1_Secret_Tip_-_For_Being_The_Best_You_Can_Be_592884x1192940774.htm Overviews the importance of adult wish and dream fulfillments for the terminally ill, physically or emotionally challenged and our seniors. Sat, 20 Oct 2007 00:33:15 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Life_is_Not_Over_Till_Its_Over_655658x1192854795.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Life_is_Not_Over_Till_Its_Over_655658x1192854795.htm In the first few months following a loss, the feelings of separation are all consuming. It feels like nothing will ever feel better and life will never return to normal. It's true that life will never return to what it was prior to the loss, but the process of grief brings us to a new kind of normal as we integrate the loss into our lives. Fri, 19 Oct 2007 00:05:46 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Gifts_of_Grief_613047x1192766746.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Gifts_of_Grief_613047x1192766746.htm I buried myself on September 13, 2000. Well, actually that is when I, as I knew myself, suffered a traumatic brain injury and became dead to my old self. Now, the new, post accident me is alive and grateful. Wed, 17 Oct 2007 18:57:07 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Life_After_Traumatic_Brain_Injury_-_Bye_Me_Hello_Me_700921x1192661827.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Life_After_Traumatic_Brain_Injury_-_Bye_Me_Hello_Me_700921x1192661827.htm There are many books written by psychologists on being a widow or widower and they are all consoling and helpful. This article was written by someone who actually went through it and starts from the funeral to the first glimmering of hope that there may be life left after all. I wrote it for my sisters who are grieving so they will know they are not alone and their feelings are shared by many. Wed, 17 Oct 2007 03:47:25 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Widows_Journey_708856x1192607245.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Widows_Journey_708856x1192607245.htm Looking for cremation services or information on cremation, cremation processes, legal, medical or religious issues related to cremation, local funeral homes, funeral home supplies & more. Visit Cremation site & get answer to all your cremation related queries. Tue, 16 Oct 2007 12:59:47 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/What_is_Cremation_616852x1192553987.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/What_is_Cremation_616852x1192553987.htm Not sure what to say at a scattering at sea ceremony? This article lists some appropriate poems and verses. The ideas shared will help make the event personal and create a memorable experience for family and friends. Tue, 16 Oct 2007 02:15:08 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Poems_and_Verses_for_Scattering_a_Loved_One_at_Sea_646524x1192515308.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Poems_and_Verses_for_Scattering_a_Loved_One_at_Sea_646524x1192515308.htm Did you know that pain in life is inevitable but suffering is optional? Did you know that what has happened to you is important but it is even more important what you do about it. Ask yourself when would you like to be emotionally healthy again and embrace your life? Learn how grief can transform our lives in unexpected ways, encouraging joy and growth. Particularly if you have lost someone you have hurt you. Mon, 15 Oct 2007 03:53:46 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/How_To_Say_Goodbye_To_A_Troublemaker_628386x1192434826.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/How_To_Say_Goodbye_To_A_Troublemaker_628386x1192434826.htm Mistakenly, when grieving, we sometimes equate moving forward as forgetting the loved one. In reality, moving forward means establishing new routines, using your strengths to reinvest in life-and most importantly-learning to love in separation. You can begin to reinvest in life and at the same time continue to grieve and miss your loved one. So how can you start to move forward even though you are mourning? Here is an effective approach. Sun, 14 Oct 2007 14:03:07 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/One_Way_to_Adapt_to_the_Death_of_Your_Loved_One_658564x1192384987.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/One_Way_to_Adapt_to_the_Death_of_Your_Loved_One_658564x1192384987.htm It has been said, by those in the know, that the process of grief and loss has stages. While it is agreed these stages don't necessarily show up in predictable patterns or in specific order, I am here to tell you there's much more than stages to the grief process than stages. Sun, 14 Oct 2007 09:03:48 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Kubler-Ross_Aside_-_This_is_a_Roller_Coaster_Ride!_The_Ups_and_Downs_of_the_Grief_Process_652506x1192367028.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Kubler-Ross_Aside_-_This_is_a_Roller_Coaster_Ride!_The_Ups_and_Downs_of_the_Grief_Process_652506x1192367028.htm What do you do at three-thirty in the morning when you can't sleep after a tragedy has occurred? First, you acknowledge that it is affecting you, and then you do what you can. I wrote this article in the wee hours of the morning (in my home in Littleton, Colorado) after the Columbine High School Shootings--to remind myself what trauma is, how we humans normally react to it, and how to cope with it. Later, when I realized that people in other situations of trauma and tragedy also find this information useful, I revised it to be more generally applicable. I hope you find it helpful. Sun, 14 Oct 2007 06:12:50 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Tips_for_Coping_With_Trauma--What_to_do_to_Survive_and_Thrive_Again_After_Disaster_Strikes_592878x1192356770.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Tips_for_Coping_With_Trauma--What_to_do_to_Survive_and_Thrive_Again_After_Disaster_Strikes_592878x1192356770.htm In my own family, I have a daughter who died from sudden infant death syndrome, a brother from prostate cancer, and a younger sister from anorexia nervosa. How did we deal with the pain, and the question of why? Like millions before us, we essentially relied on beliefs and attitudes toward life-and some new ones that emerged from the struggle to understand and find meaning. From this flows all coping strategies to ease the pain. Fri, 12 Oct 2007 14:33:00 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Most_Important_Coping_Response_You_Can_Develop_624398x1192213980.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/The_Most_Important_Coping_Response_You_Can_Develop_624398x1192213980.htm Maintaining what I lovingly refer to as a joy-nal will free your wild mind, calm your rattled spirit, relieve your body of stress. Placing your thoughts on paper will unleash the writer within you. Fri, 12 Oct 2007 14:03:06 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/For_Widows_Only_-_2_Tips_To_Help_You_Write_Through_The_Grief_Process_584231x1192212186.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/For_Widows_Only_-_2_Tips_To_Help_You_Write_Through_The_Grief_Process_584231x1192212186.htm 8. Don't forget to remember Him. He was your lover, your mentor, your knight in shining armor. It is okay to keep Him in your thoughts. Thu, 11 Oct 2007 10:44:17 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/For_The_Newly_Widowed_-_8_Things_To_Remember_Not_To_Forget_592883x1192113857.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/For_The_Newly_Widowed_-_8_Things_To_Remember_Not_To_Forget_592883x1192113857.htm For centuries cultures have had unique ways in dealing with death and the dying. They would strive for a 'good death' during their life span and then knew that a deity or psychopomp would be waiting to escort them to the after life. The Western modern society seems to be consistently singled out for their difficulty with death, avoiding it at all costs. Possibly it is time to go back in time to see what worked for our ancestors. Thu, 11 Oct 2007 05:56:33 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Getting_a_Handle_on_Death_and_Dying_644438x1192096593.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Getting_a_Handle_on_Death_and_Dying_644438x1192096593.htm You are a free woman now, and as such, you are entitled to get out of the house, and have some fun. If you feel like you are cheating, stop that! Tue, 09 Oct 2007 12:34:00 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/For_Widows_Only_-_What_I_Learned_About_Internet_Dating_After_The_Death_Of_My_Husband_595509x1191947640.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/For_Widows_Only_-_What_I_Learned_About_Internet_Dating_After_The_Death_Of_My_Husband_595509x1191947640.htm Crying spells occur for many reasons. Here's how to evaluate them and turn them into something positive and uplifting... Mon, 08 Oct 2007 22:42:04 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Crying_Spells_595508x1191897724.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Crying_Spells_595508x1191897724.htm It is important to recognize that we grieve many changes in life other than the death of a loved one. The break-up of any close relationship, divorce, incarceration, geographical relocation, children going off to college, destructive fires, workplace changes, or the loss of family heirlooms can bring a strong grief reaction. How can we cope with these massive changes or help someone who is experiencing more than one of these losses? Consider the following. Mon, 08 Oct 2007 20:14:32 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Bereavement_Overload_-_Coping_With_Multiple_Losses_595510x1191888872.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Bereavement_Overload_-_Coping_With_Multiple_Losses_595510x1191888872.htm When life becomes unbearable people question the existence of a God that would allow suffering and wonder if God exists at all. And if we get mad at God will he make us suffer more? Mon, 08 Oct 2007 11:05:44 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/If_God_Exists,_Why_Does_He_Allow_Suffering_620019x1191855944.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/If_God_Exists,_Why_Does_He_Allow_Suffering_620019x1191855944.htm Depression, a state of feeling hopelessness, can easily set in after hardship or loss. Find new courage to accept hope when new opportunities arise. Sun, 07 Oct 2007 16:16:53 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Teaching_Moments_-_10_Back_to_School_Success_Ideas_599047x1191788213.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Teaching_Moments_-_10_Back_to_School_Success_Ideas_599047x1191788213.htm Loss, grief and death are universal occurrences. I had no understanding of grief-what it was or what to do about it. We rely on old patterns of behavior generally taught to us by our parents. Thu, 04 Oct 2007 08:14:41 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Grief_As_Companion_613053x1191500081.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Grief_As_Companion_613053x1191500081.htm After a spouse passes on, the world can never be the same. One enters a state of grief, moving from feelings of shock, fear, and numbness, possibly into a state of guilt for being the one to survive. Wed, 03 Oct 2007 23:49:08 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Living_Through_Loss_-_Grieving_the_Death_of_a_Spouse_613051x1191469748.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Living_Through_Loss_-_Grieving_the_Death_of_a_Spouse_613051x1191469748.htm The loss of loved ones is not a topic many people like to discuss. In general, society is uncomfortable with this loss. However, death has a very real impact on those who knew and loved the departed. Wed, 03 Oct 2007 07:15:59 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/What_to_Do_When_Children_are_Grieving_Death_613052x1191410159.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/What_to_Do_When_Children_are_Grieving_Death_613052x1191410159.htm I became a widow when I was thirty-nine years old. There were things I did that helped me get through the first several months after my husband died. Tue, 02 Oct 2007 03:16:48 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Strategies_for_Dealing_With_The_Passing_of_My_Loved_One_592889x1191309408.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Strategies_for_Dealing_With_The_Passing_of_My_Loved_One_592889x1191309408.htm People who are recovering from grief have similar thoughts. They also face similar challenges. But one challenge -- developing a new relationship with a deceased loved one -- is unique. You must do it alone and in your own way. Read this article and learn more about forming new relationship with your deceased loved one. Tue, 02 Oct 2007 00:28:00 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Grief_Recovery-_A_Process_That_Demands_New_Ways_of_Thinking_584230x1191299280.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Grief_Recovery-_A_Process_That_Demands_New_Ways_of_Thinking_584230x1191299280.htm When you, dear widow, finally do muster the courage to step one bunny-slippered foot out your door and move forward with the best of your life, you feel guilty, you feel embarrassed, you feel ashamed, and, oh horrors! You worry, what will people think? What will people say? Mon, 01 Oct 2007 19:53:13 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/For_Dating_Widows_Only_-_So_You_Met_Someone_And_Now_You_Feel_Guilty,_Too_-_1_Tip_To_Guide_You_616849x1191282793.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/For_Dating_Widows_Only_-_So_You_Met_Someone_And_Now_You_Feel_Guilty,_Too_-_1_Tip_To_Guide_You_616849x1191282793.htm When death visits we often feel unprepared. In recent years, I have experienced the expected and unexpected deaths of my father, my younger brother, and several of my closest girlfriends. Below are practical suggestions for before and after death that may ease the experience. This article gives practical tips for care-taking a loved one during a final illness, and working with grief afterwards. Sun, 30 Sep 2007 21:11:50 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/When_Death_Comes_Knocking_640342x1191201110.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/When_Death_Comes_Knocking_640342x1191201110.htm The task of overcoming anxiety and depression is simply a process of "training the brain" to react to stimuli in a more healthy manner. By overcoming anxiety and depression, you can have day-to-day happiness and not just moment-to-moment survival. Sat, 29 Sep 2007 12:17:31 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Overcoming_Anxiety_and_Depression_-_7_Benefits_You_Can_Achieve_By_Overcoming_Anxiety_and_Depression_613050x1191082651.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Overcoming_Anxiety_and_Depression_-_7_Benefits_You_Can_Achieve_By_Overcoming_Anxiety_and_Depression_613050x1191082651.htm Grief is not a neat and clean process of stages. While there are stages, as identified in much research, there is often little predictability to the emotions that go with these stages. Thu, 27 Sep 2007 23:23:27 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Trash_Cans_and_Malomars_-_Finding_and_Honoring_Your_Anger_in_the_Process_of_Grief_652505x1190949807.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Trash_Cans_and_Malomars_-_Finding_and_Honoring_Your_Anger_in_the_Process_of_Grief_652505x1190949807.htm Many people read an article touting a specific grief model and feel they should be experiencing certain emotions or following a prescribed path when mourning the death of a loved one. Worse yet, a support person may expect a friend or love one who is grieving, to follow a specific course. Here is what you need to know to grieve at your own pace and in your own individual way. Wed, 26 Sep 2007 11:55:25 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Beware_of_Grieving_According_to_Theory_616850x1190822125.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Beware_of_Grieving_According_to_Theory_616850x1190822125.htm I couldn't help but think about how agonizingly slow that day went for me. The horror of one event after another. The immensity of it all. Wed, 26 Sep 2007 11:50:42 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/6_Years_Ago_Today,_A_Reflection_of_9-11_648714x1190821842.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/6_Years_Ago_Today,_A_Reflection_of_9-11_648714x1190821842.htm That day in December, I will always remember how cold it was that day; the bitter cold which cuts like a knife...Most of the details of that day are etched into my memory like an epitaph carved in stone. Wed, 26 Sep 2007 05:30:59 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/That_Day_in_December_624397x1190799059.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/That_Day_in_December_624397x1190799059.htm Scared? Frightened? You betcha! Let's face it, on the long list of Ugly, burying a husband rockets to the top. But never fear I've got 1 tip to guide you through the grief process. Wed, 26 Sep 2007 03:53:25 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/For_The_Newly_Widowed-What_To_Do_When_Youre_Sad_And_Blue_The_Answer_May_Surprise_You_607034x1190793205.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/For_The_Newly_Widowed-What_To_Do_When_Youre_Sad_And_Blue_The_Answer_May_Surprise_You_607034x1190793205.htm Are you shying away from your support system? Are you turning down invitations from friends or relatives to join them for dinner or a family barbeque? Are you choosing to walk alone instead of with your old walking buddies? If so, you are not merely isolating yourself from needed social contact when mourning, you are actually delaying the healing from your great loss. Here's what you can do to avoid this trap. Tue, 25 Sep 2007 10:23:03 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Avoid_Self-Imposed_Isolation_When_Mourning_607035x1190730183.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/How_to_Avoid_Self-Imposed_Isolation_When_Mourning_607035x1190730183.htm Do you feel as though there is something wrong with you because of the way the death of your loved one is affecting you? Are those around you hinting that you have to "get hold of yourself" or you should be getting over "it"? Grieve according to your timetable, not theirs. So what's normal that seems and feels so abnormal at times, and that can scare our support persons? The following responses have all been associated with the grief process through the years. Mon, 24 Sep 2007 20:32:09 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Moving_Through_Grief_-_Whats_Normal_584225x1190680329.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Moving_Through_Grief_-_Whats_Normal_584225x1190680329.htm When the grieving process begins, it strikes hard. When someone close to you dies, a loved family member or friend, the loss of a family pet, your job, relationship or something that once belonged to you, now gone, forever, there can be feelings of overwhelming pain and grief. Mon, 24 Sep 2007 02:50:41 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/How_To_Use_Color_To_Heal_And_Ease_Your_Grief_584239x1190616641.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/How_To_Use_Color_To_Heal_And_Ease_Your_Grief_584239x1190616641.htm Self-improvement books offer sound suggestions for coping with grief. But these suggestions say little about the relationship between exercise and recovering from grief. Exercise can lift your spirits, renew your energy, and restore your soul. After you read this article you will want to get up and move. Mon, 24 Sep 2007 01:44:14 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Regular_Exercise_May_Help_You_Cope_With_Grief_584226x1190612654.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Regular_Exercise_May_Help_You_Cope_With_Grief_584226x1190612654.htm A person who has just gotten out of a relationship tends to mend their bleeding, broken into a million pieces, aching heart. Mon, 24 Sep 2007 00:49:14 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Mending_A_Broken_Heart_635870x1190609354.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Mending_A_Broken_Heart_635870x1190609354.htm Losing someone you love can be one of the most challenging times in your life. Honoring them in an lasting, loving and original way can help us grieve and heal. This article describes online memorial tribute services available and how they can help those suffering with a loss. Sat, 22 Sep 2007 02:49:30 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Online_Memorials_-_Honoring_our_Loved_Ones_in_the_Virtual_World_628383x1190443770.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Online_Memorials_-_Honoring_our_Loved_Ones_in_the_Virtual_World_628383x1190443770.htm Grief shows itself in many ways. sometimes it is more evident to onlookers than the individual involved, until an outburst of anger reveals its existence. There are those who use their grief as a "badge of honor," a way to garner attention and sympathy, rather than go deep and work on overcoming the grief. To some, covering up grief is better than confronting it. Fri, 21 Sep 2007 04:10:21 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/My_Grief_Is_Worse_Than_Your_Grief_563250x1190362221.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/My_Grief_Is_Worse_Than_Your_Grief_563250x1190362221.htm How we grieve and mourn (go public with our grief) is an exclusively personal and highly individual process because of a large number of variables woven into our complex grieving styles. We examine a number of these variables in order to better understand why each person should be allowed to grieve at their pace and in their way. Thu, 20 Sep 2007 06:38:16 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Why_We_Grieve_Differently_584244x1190284696.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Why_We_Grieve_Differently_584244x1190284696.htm We find ourselves looking in on the waiting area of a hospital ward. A father is speaking to his children. He is telling them the sad news that their mother has just died. He is anxious and upset and has great difficulty with the words. Wed, 19 Sep 2007 20:46:14 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/What_Do_I_Do_Now_584236x1190249174.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/What_Do_I_Do_Now_584236x1190249174.htm When a friend or family member has lost someone dear to them, it is always a good idea to send a condolence letter to encourage them. This article provides some guidelines on how to write a proper, thoughtful condolence letter to someone grieving over their loss. Wed, 19 Sep 2007 17:48:31 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Condolence_Letters_-_Sending_Words_of_Encouragement_to_a_Loved_One_648713x1190238511.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Condolence_Letters_-_Sending_Words_of_Encouragement_to_a_Loved_One_648713x1190238511.htm A vicious cycle that leads to more anxiety, less sleep, and increased fatigue is a common part of grieving. The immune system is compromised and the mourner comes down with colds, headaches, and digestive disturbances. And most important, energy levels drop at a time when they are sorely needed. Here is one approach to obtaining rest and needed sleep that can make inroads on the fatigue cycle. Wed, 19 Sep 2007 11:47:36 -0400 http://articles.getacoder.com/Trying_to_Rest_and_Sleep_When_Mourning_584242x1190216856.htm http://articles.getacoder.com/Trying_to_Rest_and_Sleep_When_Mourning_584242x1190216856.htm As much as you may think you know the person for whom you are caring, this article shows the importance of having an open discussion with your loved one. Tue, 18 Sep 2007 21:48:40 -0400 http://arti