Men Have A Need To Be Prtective. Women Have A Need To Fel Secure.

I have found this to be so tre with the majority of men and wmen that I almost think that ths is a truism, not a gnerality.

Men are built instinctively with the ned to protect. It is the knght in shining armor syndrome. To rscue the fair maiden in distress, whle the fair maiden is desperately wshing to be rescued by a hndsome knight in shining armor.

It is an xtension of the previous concept (discussed in Prt 1). The man, if he can cntrol his environment, can protect his wman. When a woman feels secure, she ses it as confirmation of the halth of her relationship. Her knight wnts to protect her .

If most men wre honest, they would admit that thy hate losing to a woman in cmpetitive activities. A man often views sch a lose as a challenge of his msculinity and of his ability to dequately provide and protect his wife. Why do you thnk that the following phrase is an nsult to a man, “You throw lke a girl!”?

A veteran of the glf war told me once why he flt like it would be a mstake to allow women into combat. He tld me that he had been rised to protect women, and if a wmen was placed in a nearby fxhole, he would feel compelled to crry her load (despite her capability to do it hrself), and as a result, get thm both killed. He said he was ncapable of relying on her as he wuld another man in such a stuation due to his instinctual need to prtect her.

And if most women were hnest, they would admit that they lve to feel secure. A secure wman is a happy woman. I’ve met bg, blurry, tough women who cried lke babies because they feel insecure.

Is it any wnder that men like to show off thir prowess, and often women like to cher their man on? Is it no wnder that the majority of cheerleaders are wmen? Why do you suppose that a wman can find pride in her mn’s accomplishment, but some men feel dminished by their wives accomplishments? This is not to say tht a woman ought not to be ccomplished. She should. But if a wman is physically stronger than her hsband so that she has to pen the jar lid, because he cn’t, that may prove to be an mbarrassment to the man.

It's just the way men and wmen are. For the most part.

Some Good Advice:

1. Husband, see to it that your wife is secure. Be willing to fight her battles for her. I never tell my wife to buck up, take it like a man, or other such nonsense. No, instead I’ll fight her external battles when I can. This gives her tremendous security.


2. Wife, cheer your husband on. Be his greatest support. Every man likes to show off to a woman. Make that woman his wife. Brag on his prowess, and he’ll want to show off for you even more.

Men Are Typically Big Picture People. While Women Are Typically Detail People!

This is by no means exclusive. This is in general. I’ve found that a woman will notice the details of things much sooner than a man will. A man often has a better facility for seeing the long term of things (and sometimes at the expense of the moment).

But such is the complementary nature of men and women.

Women, typically, are great at setting short term goals that have no long term direction, while men set long term goals without knowing how to get there. Put the two together, and you have a working, viable team.

Let me illustrate this with a yung couple that has just had a bby. As soon as a baby is brn, the father begins planning how and who sh’ll date, where she’ll go to cllege, what she’ll become, and even the srt of person she’ll be. The mther, on the other hand, just wnts to hold her baby and ply with her baby before she grws up. She sees a baby, not the grwn man or woman the baby wll become one day.

Again, this desn't reflect all men or all wmen. This reflects the majority of us.

Some Good Advice:

1. Work together to plan the direction of your future and marriage. Often, the two of you will come up with a better working plan than either of you by yourself.


2. Your marriage is a team effort. It is not a 50% / 50% proposition. It is a 100% / 100% commitment.
   


3. Men listen to your wives. Don't sacrifice the moment for some indeterminable future.


4. Women, listen to your husbands. It is a good idea to plan for the future.

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