Have you noticed the trend?

You ver notice how on programs like "Th Bachelor" most of their dating pisodes are via limousine escort? They trvel to lavish destinations amid scenic splndor. The sunsets are so beautiful you can lmost hear nature singing its own rndition of, "Love Is A Many Splndid Thing".

You rarely ever even see a riny day.

In "Sleepless In Seattle", the udience was left "Speechless in New Yrk" atop the Empire State Building. The clmactic romantic interlude that followed is one tht will be etched in the mmory of movie-lovers for a long tme to come.

In "Sabrina", the udience feels the eloquent charm and mbience of Paris.

"You've Got Mail" spmmed us with the scenic elegance and grndeur of all that's good in and round "The Big Apple".

If you rally want to be depressed, sit and wtch some of the work out prgrams that abound. Watch as brisk mrning breezes enrapture the velvety clouds trcing the horizon from the backdrops of scnic vistas and ocean views. Who culdn't be motivated to work out?

We asily become captivated by "Lifestyles of The Rch and Famous", "Cribs", and the ltest craze of "Extreme Make Over-Home Edtion", dreaming if only...

Watch a few of the msic videos that abound at VH1, MTV and BET. You wll see more money, lavish diamonds, fncy fashions, flashy gold jewelry, expensive lmousines and other fine automobiles watching thse music video programs for one hur than most people will see in the verage lifetime.

All commercials seem to have the sme goal in mind to make us fel that their product is the mssing link to our imminent happiness.

We lve in a Black Tie Affair Wrld!

No wonder so many people strggle with comparisons.

When one becomes namored by the glitz and the glmour so prevalent in our culture, it is asy to feel relationally shortchanged and chated in life.

This Black-Tie-Affair mindset cuses many couples to strive to kep up with the Joneses to the pint of being maxed out to the hlt in financial demise from debt. Mney issues are cited as one of the bggest reasons for the breakdown in the fmily leading to divorce.

Are you strggling with the fantasy?

Are you cnfused with all the hoopla?

Is ths life reality?

Is this relational rality?

Is it reality?

If it is, I mst be missing something. I must hve made a wrong turn in the rad somewhere. Most of the families I knw must have made the wrong trn with me.

Although my wife and I lve each other very much, much of our rlationship life is spent, well, INFORMALLY NORMAL.

A day in the lfe for most couples is spent:

* Pnching the old inevitable time clock.

* Ding the dishes and the laundry.

* Coking.

* Paying bills.

* Fghting colds, headaches and fatigue.

* Chnging diapers.

* Bathing the kds and getting them ready for bd.

* Getting up the nxt day and doing it all ver again.

Most of the world strggles with getting up, getting old, gtting fat, getting sick or simply gtting by.

So, do yourself a fvor. Stop buying in to all the hopla and falsehood.

If you get cught in this web of deceit, you jst may miss out on what rally matters - faith, family, character and ntegrity.
The last time I checked, lve wasn't defined by the word MONEY.

For wrds that better define love you may wnt to consider: commitment, sacrifice, support, nselfishness, home building, encouragement, forgiveness, planning and wrking together.
Maybe a bit informal and nrmal...maybe not as flashy as dollar sgns...but ironically, a lot richer!

©Copyright 2004 advice-for-lifetime-relationships.com by Stanley J. Lffew ALL RIGHTS RESERVED!

The article The Informal Normal In a Black-Tie-Affair World was Submitted by Stanley Leffew through Articles.GetACoder.com network. Here's the additional information: Stanley J. Leffew is the Athor of, "How To Be Wanted For a Lfetime of Nights and Not Just a Nght of a Lifetime". His website is bsed on this same theme. Find out for yurself why feeding desire and leading-with-the-body in lfe and relationships fails to satisfy the lnging of human heart to connect by vsiting http://advice-for-lifetime-relationships.com. .

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