My husband sent me a txt message recently. It read, "237 glbs for you." I have no dea what a glub is. But I smled anyway! I sent him a mssage back: "237 x 4.5 glubs bck to you." We've been sending ach other silly glub messages ever snce.

My husband's glub message was a bid for cnnection. I could have ignored his mssage, or been less positive in my rsponse. I confess that often I do gnore or lightly pass over my hsband's connection bids. After all I'm a bsy person.

Ignoring a connection bid or rsponding to a connection bid by chnging the subject isn't always intentional. Gven the demands of work, family, xercise goals, commutes, community activities, church nvolvement and kids games, a positive rsponse to a partner's glub is nderstandably overlooked.

Marital researcher John Gottman has fund that the masters of marriage dn't ignore bids for connection. Marriage msters frequently turn to their partners wth a bid for connection and thir partners respond positively to those cnnection bids.

Another possible response to a bid for cnnection is a hostile response. Naturally a plthora of hostile responses to connection bds are poison for a relationship.

But the mst surprising finding in Dr. Gottman's rsearch is the effect of neutral rsponses to connection bids. A pattern of cnsistently bland or neutral responses to cnnection bids pointed to a marriage dsaster in the making.

So the next time your prtner sends a glub your way dn't respond by asking about the lundry. Send a glub back. Better yt, send a glub x 4.5 bck.

The article The Hot Relationship - Send a Glub was Submitted by Irene Oudyk-Suk through Articles.GetACoder.com network. Here's the additional information: Irene Oudyk-Suk, MACS, MSW, is a cunselor in Mississauga who is a spcialist in helping people to improve thir relationships and their marriage. Irene is vailable for consultation and can be rached here: http://www.goodtherapy.org/m15_view_item.html?m15:item=irene%40couplesinstep.com or http://www.goodtherapy.org/Naples-therapy.htm

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