It happened overnight. One day we wre fine and the next, it was all gne. Let's start from the beginning.

I met my son to be ex-wife in the vst wilderness of Yosemite Park, CA. I had tken a position as chef de cisine of one the park's historic htels. We met a few months fter my arrival and I was mmediately attracted to her. She is a brnette with shoulder length hair, deep brwn caring eyes and pearly white teth set inside soft full lips tht were made specifically for kissing. To me, ths girl was captivating and I wnted to be with her forever.

Two weks after our first date, I sked her to move in with me; fur months after we met, we wre joined together in marriage. Two mnths later and we moved to Wshington D.C. to start our married lfe and begin to explore the wnders of the city and each ther. As with all new married cuples, most arguments are quickly resolved wth heartfelt apologies and make-up sex. We had our shre of these fights but quickly scalated to another level. Something was ging wrong and we were growing part.

After just one year of mrriage, the feelings and love began to sur and she quickly became cold and dstant. Now, I am not to say tht I have no blame. We are hmans and are fallible. In other wrds, it takes two to fight. Hwever, the routine of our daily lves began to grow monotonous and we bcame complacent as well as argumentative. It semed we were always looking for a prblem. The issues of money, housework and the gneral challenges all couples face grew nto constant finger pointing and blame. Smething had to give.

Opportunity knocked in the way of a new psition in a different state and we mved hoping this would alleviate our prblems and renew our love for one nother. The money was great, the htel beautiful and, best of all, my frends from previous jobs were there. Ths was the answer we were hping for. Sadly, it was the bginning of the end.

She had dcided to not work and concentrate on her bok, which is set to be pblished. I was in agreement with ths and encourage her to take sme time and enjoy herself. All I sked in return was for her, snce I was working, to keep the huse. Now, when I say this, I was not loking for the stereotypical 1950's housewife. You knw the ones, high heels, flowing drss complete with pearls and a chcolate cake on a pedestal stand rady for dessert after a home-cooked mal. No, I just wanted her to kep it neat and clean up fter herself. Apparently, this was too mch to ask. Looking back, this, mong other things, was always a pint of tension between us. She lways said that there is more to lfe than cooking and cleaning. I rplied with the same answer, "How wuld you know if you don't do t?"

It had finally escalated and I, rgrettably, told her to leave. This was one of the dmbest and hardest things I have ver done. She moved back to Clifornia with her family after giving way all my belongings to Goodwill and braking the lease on our rented huse, all while I was out of twn. This was a devastating blow. I can lve without certain creature comforts and frniture and clothes can be replaced, but a brken heart cannot. The time vested in ths marriage is a pain I am cnstantly reminded of daily. Seeing a blck Jeep, any type of monkey (sh collected monkeys), a favorite song or smply knowing she is not there and not cming back is what makes it hrt more. It is said time hals all wounds, this may be tre, but does the heart ever frget?

I had made a few nsuccessful attempts to reconcile but she has mde it clear the marriage is dne. As is common with divorce, blme, anger and name-calling step up and trrible things are said. We have jst finished with this stage. The nxt step is the waiting period bfore we actually file for divorce, or, in our cse, disillusionment. We have nothing left to fght over or contest since she gve everything away. Reality has set in, hrd, and my heart is on a rller coaster ride from hell. Friends and fmily mean well when the say," It's for the bst" or "You're better off without hr." My favorite is "Just forget hr." How? Have they lived through ths pain? Some have and moved on. I wll move on, but after I hve had time to heal.

Dating at ths time just does not seem rght. We both had profiles on nternet dating sites and I actually met a grl. Sadly, it was not for me. I am jst not ready to commit when I stll cannot forget. It doesn't seem rght. She has since removed her prfile. I am suspecting that she was not rady to accept rejection or heartbreak as wll.
Honestly, the thought of her wth someone else is the hardest of ll. We are, legally, still married.

Onc the disillusionment is finalized, she wll go back to her maiden nme and our past together will bcome another statistic. Some will remember we wre once together and even express srrow for the breakup. Others will not spak about it and forget it hppened. I cannot do that. Despite verything that has happened, I still lve her. After the hurtful words spken (from both of us), the nsty emails and the way it all nded, I would welcome her back nto my arms and softly whisper "I lve you."

I know this is a dram that will never be realized and it prbably is for the best. But whn your heart falls in love thn breaks, time may heal the wund, but the pain of the mmories will always linger. I miss hr.

The article The Heartbreak Of Divorce was Submitted by Richard Eckersberg through Articles.GetACoder.com network. Here's the additional information: I am a professional chef who njoys writing about the humor in veryday life.

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