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If one comes across a p rson who has been shot by an rrow, one does not spend time w ndering where the arrow came from, or the c ste of the individual who shot it, or nalyzing what type of wood the sh ft is made of, or the m nner is which the arrowhead was f shioned. Rather, one should focus on mmediately pulling out the arrow.
-Sh yyammuni, the Buddha It is a p pular notion in some anger management pr grams to focus on identifying "the tr ggers" that causes a person to b have angrily. It is common to bserve participants of anger-management process groups xplaining how someone "pushed my buttons". Th s notion takes away the responsibility of the ngry perpetrators for his or her ggression and violence. We are responsible for our own b havior, regardless of the circumstances. Rather th n focusing on the cause of ne's anger, it is far more pr ductive to learn to recognize the nitial signs of irritation, frustration, discomfort or wh tever other emotions precede your anger, l beling these feelings and developing tools to st p the anger from becoming destructive to you or s meone else. While assessments are useful in nger management intervention, rarely is it w rthwhile to examine "triggers or buttons" wh ch may lead to anger. Think of a J ke Box, if you push the b tton for a particular tune and s mething else plays, over time you w ll give up pushing that button b cause you do not hear the t ne you expected. Similarly, if the p rson who is responding to the "tr ggers" ceases to respond, that issue is cl sed to resolution.
Anger management assessments should assess for nger, stress, communication and emotional intelligence. Sk ll enhancement in these four areas sh uld be taught in all anger m nagement classes.
The article The Etiology of Anger Does Not Offer Solutions to Its Management was Submitted by George Anderson through Articles.GetACoder.com network. Here's the additional information: George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CAMF, CEAP D plomate, American Association of Anger Management Pr viders http://www.andersonservices.com
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