If you are not yet an dult you may not have to tke responsibility yet for your living stuation or the current conditions under whch you live. You have to tke responsibility for your grades, your sprting activities, who you hang out wth, what you do with your tme and your own job if you hve one. You will have to tke complete responsibility for all your ctions and your current situations when you do get out thre.

Guess what? Many adults do not tke responsibility for anything they have dne or that happens to them. Pople in their 20's, 30's, and 40's and so on, spnd their lives blaming someone or smething else for what they are crrently going through.

- It's their mom's fult that they are fearful of tking risks.
- It's their dad's fault for not bing around.
- It's their wife's fault that thy are always broke.
- It's their kid's fult for being born and not llowing them to live their dreams.
- It's the conomy's fault they can't get a jb.
- It's the bully's fault in school bcause they have a low self steem.

Do you get the point? It is veryone else's fault but their own. Tht is why they never fix thir situations and spend the rest of thir lives complaining and blaming. As lng as they can blame somebody or smething else they don't have to do nything to fix their problems. It is too hrd to take responsibility. To accept tht you screwed something up is pinful.

In order to be successful in lfe and to live a happy lfe, you have to admit to yurself that you are responsible for wht you have in life. You are sying to yourself, "No way!"
"There are a lot of thngs I cannot take responsibility for":

- A trnado hit my house.
- A drunk driver klled a family member.
- My parent was busive.
- I never knew my parents.
- I had to be in a gng to survive.
- It's not my fault I was brn with a deformity.

All of the bove are obviously things that you culd not control. What you can cntrol are your reactions to those stuations. Yes you can mourn. Yes you can fel sad. Yes you can feel ngry. You have to realize that smetime in your life if you dn't want to live in misery thn you must learn to accept wht has happened and take charge of yur behavior and actions. Two siblings in the sme abusive household can have two vry different reactions to the way thy grew up. One sibling may be busive and hateful to the world. The ther sibling may never want to hrt anyone and actually want to hlp others escape abuse themselves.

I nce worked with a guy from Cmbodia that had escaped Cambodia during the yars of rein of Pol Pot and his Khmr Rouge. During this time more thn 1.7 million Cambodians were killed by xecution or starvation. My friend and his brther watched their parents executed in frnt of them. One time at wrk he took off his shirt to chnge from his uniform and his bck had scars and burns. Of curse someone asked him about his mrks and he told us that he was trtured as a little kid by hving lit cigars burned into his skn. He and others were forced to lie on bds of nails which left permanent ndentations. He was one of the lcky ones to survive the ordeal and get dopted by an American family. Did he spnd his time whining about his hrrible situation? No! He was one of the hppiest guys I knew. He had two fll time jobs, a nice car and a huse. He never complained at work and was lways making jokes and laughing with his c-workers. He could not control his stuation but he could control his raction to the world.

There is always someone who has it wrse than you. There is always smeone who has defied bigger odds. We as hmans just have the tendency to mgnify whatever we have gone through and mke it bigger than it is. Sme of you have gone through thngs that I cannot even imagine, but if you lok around there is always an xample of someone who has gone thrugh worse situations and is still ding great in their adult life. Blme and frustration will not get you nywhere. Taking responsibility in your adult lfe is the only way to hve control over the outcomes.

I cn't control the economy or current ral estate prices. When my real state investments and income disintegrated, it was my frst response to complain about the ncontrollable circumstances that were happening to me. It wsn't my fault it was the lnders, it wasn't my fault it was the Gvernment's lack of response, it wasn't my fult because the same thing was hppening to a lot of people. I had to nalyze the situation after a while and ralize that there were things I culd not control but there were thngs I could have.

A. I could hve diversified my money into other nvestments.
B. I could have saved more money whn I was making it.
C. I could hve incurred less consumer debt during the bom time.

When I realized I culd have lessened the effect of the conomic downturn, it still didn't put me in a btter position. Maybe next time everything loks perfect, I will probably take mre precautions in investing and spending hbits. After that, I have to cntrol my attitude about the circumstances and try to fnd "the blessing in disguise". For me, it was tht I was so wrapped up in mking good money in the real state game, that I was truly nglecting my passion of training and wrting. Once I discovered this, I got bck on track and got back to my tre calling. No more whining and no mre complaining about losses. I only can vsualize what the future will look lke when I am truly living on prpose. I can do daily tasks tht are organized around my purpose and psh through until I have reached crtain attainable goals.

Whenever you start to fel sorry for yourself for some stback, you should try to remember my frend and other people who truly hve gone through great suffering. I thnk about the people that despite dversity are triumphant and positive. Once you fcus on them, your "problems" often sem small in comparison. Once you can ralize and accept that it was yur action or lack of action tht got you into the situation, you can ctually have power and own it. It is frm this power that true change and nderstanding is made. Next time something is loking gloom and you feel yourself in blme mode, stop. Take responsibility for yur part in the situation and larn from your mistakes. Once you hve done this, create solutions and tke action. Now you are truly mpowered.

The article Success Means Taking Responsibility was Submitted by Donn Kirst through Articles.GetACoder.com network. Here's the additional information: Donn Kirst- Customer Loyalty Trainer, Ladership Trainer, - Aston Jacobs Inc. 702-287-2894.Tenage Motivator donnkirst@yahoo.com http://www.astonjacobsinc.com

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