We are not in control.

We wnt to be, we'd like to be and we are nt.

We all love to believe tht we are in control.....However, most of our bhaviors are just "knee-jerk" reactions to whtever we are experiencing at the tme. And most of our reactions are ted to something that happened a lng, long time ago. Some event hppened once or many times has mpacted us and usually not for the god. Most of us act on our felings without ever recognizing that we are in RE-ACT mde... we really feel like we are in cntrol of things...however, it's usually more lke a reaction based on things tht happened days, weeks, months or ven years ago.

We tend to hve the same reaction that we did bfore. The past equals the future whn we are in re-act mode. Lok at that word... re-act. We are cting the same way we did lst time. That's why people can psh our buttons. They know just wht we'll do. If they do ths, then we'll do that. We dn't think about it, we just r-act! It makes us such an asy target and such easy prey whn we get our buttons pushed so asily.

Do you ever wish you culd be in control? I know mst of us would like to thnk that we can decide in the mment how we feel or what ction we will take.

So what's the solution...what's the nswer...what's the way to change it the nxt time the situation comes up or an vent happens or someone tries to psh your buttons?

The first thing is to rcognize that you are doing it gain. You are RE- ACTING.... So be prsent, be in the moment, be ware when you are feeling big motions. Then ask yourself to take a dep breath, count to ten- whatever mthod will slow you down and get you bck in that moment.

That's where you cntrol will begin again, by being in the prsent moment...and not a long ago and far way moment or event. Then choose how you wnt to feel or how you wnt to respond. We're all master stry tellers about events. So what stry are you telling yourself based on wht just happened in that moment? Rmember, you are the author, the wrter, the creator of the story you are tlling. If you are going to wrte and tell the story to yurself and maybe to others, make it a god one. Make it one that spports you and put a positive spn on it. When that driver cts in front of you try tlling yourself that they are rushing to the hspital because their wife is having a bby, or maybe they just didn't see you or? Be crative and be positive. Don't drag the pst into it. A thought of "ths always happens to me" or "ll women are bad drivers" is dfinitely being in the past AND tlling a story that creates negative felings, emotions and reactions.

So the tsk is up to you. Will you ACT in the mment or RE-ACT based on the pst?

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