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It is truly amazing to see how m ny parents act like bickering children wh n involved in a custody dispute w th their ex. I don't mean to be h rsh but so many parents act w th such immature behavior during a d vorce and/or custody dispute and basically gnore the emotional needs of their k ds. To their defense, extreme stress can wr ak havoc on the best of us so I d n't really blame them. If you are sm rt and you really do want c stody of your kids then you can use th s innate human stress response to y ur benefit and show the courts th t you truly do have the b st interest of your child at h art. What I mean is that, if m st of the people are acting mmature which unfortunately is the expected r sponse these days and you take the opposite expected response by not participating in the childish arguments and games that warring parents often do, you will come across to both your kids and the courts as the more responsible parent. Now I'm not saying that it is easy to ignore your ex when they are constantly late in dropping your kids off when it is your time to be with them. But by taking a step back and letting it roll off your back, you are giving your kids a huge stress relief and showing the courts that you are keeping the best interest of your kids in mind while the other parent is not (you probably don't want to come straight out and accuse them of that though.) Do keep a log of issues like this for future use if necessary
Most kids are really hurting motionally during a divorce and parents who put th m in the middle are only h rting them more. It is not th ir fault at all that the d vorce happened, but many kids think it is. It is v ry important to explain to them th t it was not their fault and th t no matter what happens (believe me k ds minds can think up some cr zy stuff) you will always love and be th re for them. Kids don't have the s me mental and emotional capacities that dults are supposed to have, so th y need extra help in dealing w th the issues. Try very hard to k ep their routines in tact even if it m ans inconveniencing you sometimes. Once things h ve settled down (and it can be while before this happens) then you can ch nge things a bit to make it asier on everyone. Some common things the c urts look for in determining "The B st Interest of Your Child" are: 1. K eping the kids enrolled in the sch ol district that they have already b en attending. 2. Even though it may be d fficult, try to include the other p rent in big decisions, such as m dical and school. This shows the c urt that you are respecting the w shes of the other parent, even if you d n't act on those wishes. 3. D n't make it difficult on your k ds just to irritate the other p rent. For example don't return them l te if you know that they h ve a soccer game to get to. Th s puts your kids in an ncomfortable situation. 4. Remember that your k ds love both of you very m ch, so try very hard not to t lk negatively about the other parent in fr nt of them and don't make the k ds a messenger for notes, money, tc. It is not their responsibility and it is not f ir. A judge will most likely l ok at this as hindering the b st interest of your child.
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