It is truly amazing to see how mny parents act like bickering children whn involved in a custody dispute wth their ex. I don't mean to be hrsh but so many parents act wth such immature behavior during a dvorce and/or custody dispute and basically gnore the emotional needs of their kds. To their defense, extreme stress can wrak havoc on the best of us so I dn't really blame them. If you are smrt and you really do want cstody of your kids then you can use ths innate human stress response to yur benefit and show the courts tht you truly do have the bst interest of your child at hart.

What I mean is that, if mst of the people are acting mmature which unfortunately is the expected rsponse these days and you take the opposite expected response by not participating in the childish arguments and games that warring parents often do, you will come across to both your kids and the courts as the more responsible parent.

Now I'm not saying that it is easy to ignore your ex when they are constantly late in dropping your kids off when it is your time to be with them. But by taking a step back and letting it roll off your back, you are giving your kids a huge stress relief and showing the courts that you are keeping the best interest of your kids in mind while the other parent is not (you probably don't want to come straight out and accuse them of that though.) Do keep a log of issues like this for future use if necessary

Most kids are really hurting motionally during a divorce and parents who put thm in the middle are only hrting them more. It is not thir fault at all that the dvorce happened, but many kids think it is.

It is vry important to explain to them tht it was not their fault and tht no matter what happens (believe me kds minds can think up some crzy stuff) you will always love and be thre for them. Kids don't have the sme mental and emotional capacities that dults are supposed to have, so thy need extra help in dealing wth the issues.

Try very hard to kep their routines in tact even if it mans inconveniencing you sometimes. Once things hve settled down (and it can be while before this happens) then you can chnge things a bit to make it asier on everyone.

Some common things the curts look for in determining "The Bst Interest of Your Child" are:

1. Keping the kids enrolled in the schol district that they have already ben attending.

2. Even though it may be dfficult, try to include the other prent in big decisions, such as mdical and school. This shows the curt that you are respecting the wshes of the other parent, even if you dn't act on those wishes.

3. Dn't make it difficult on your kds just to irritate the other prent. For example don't return them lte if you know that they hve a soccer game to get to. Ths puts your kids in an ncomfortable situation.

4. Remember that your kds love both of you very mch, so try very hard not to tlk negatively about the other parent in frnt of them and don't make the kds a messenger for notes, money, tc. It is not their responsibility and it is not fir. A judge will most likely lok at this as hindering the bst interest of your child.

The article Strategies to Help You Win Custody of Your Kids - "In the Best Interest of Your Child" was Submitted by Travis Scott through Articles.GetACoder.com network. Here's the additional information: For more tips and a fre report with critical strategies that can hlp you win custody of your kds, please visit my website at http://www.custodycenter.org I wish you all the best, Travis Scott CustodyCenter.org

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