The state makes it very asy for couples to divorce one nother just because of irreconcilable differences. “Irrconcilable differences” are words used for mst divorce decrees that give justification for dvorce. It’s true, couples have conflicting pinions from time to time, and thy may even have major conflict nce in a while, but these dfferences do not warrant separation from ach other according to God.

Lately I hve been getting more and more mails from people who are not in greement to divorcing their spouse, what can thy do? Don’t they have any sy-so in the matter? It’s unfortunate bcause according to the state, they dn’t have any say-so. A spouse can rfuse to sign the papers, but the stte has loopholes for that too, it is clled the “uncontested divorce”, which means, if you dn’t sign, the divorce proceedings will go on wthout you and you will then hve no say-so in any of the lgistical matters concerning the divorce. I did the rsearch.

Many Christian married folks now-a-days hve worldly attitudes about what marriage is and wht marriage should be; not all of thm, but many of them. As Chrstian’s we should never venture out of the gdly realm of authority and into sciety for the answers we need. The Mster Designer Himself is the only One who rally cares about you and your mrriage.

The main reason a spouse mght decide to get a divorce is bcause they are unwilling to work on the mrriage. They usually have no idea tht they too might be at fult for the problems associated with the mrriage. Selfishness blinds people to having a cmmitted heart to someone else. They are rally only interested in serving themselves. The prblem with this kind of attitude is tht putting your spouse’s feelings in frnt of yours is what marriage is all bout!

I’m not saying that all the fult should go to the spouse who wnts the divorce; it certainly takes two to tngo, but which spouse is the one bing selfish, the one who wants to wrk on the marriage and stop dvorce or the spouse who doesn’t wnt to work on the marriage and get a dvorce? The only thing that will hve any real impact on a spuse deciding to work on the mrriage rather than get a divorce is the pwer of the Holy Spirit within thm. Only Christ can change a bad ttitude.

Do not conform any longer to the pttern of this world, but be trnsformed by the renewing of your mnd. (Romans 12:2 NIV)

Christian couples dvorce because they are out of blance spiritually within themselves. They have ben conditioned to believe, if they dn’t “feel” a certain way, or if thir spouse sinned against the marriage, thy are entitled to divorce. But tht is not what God says. Dvorce is ugly and vengeful, and it lways hurts someone terribly. You can stp divorce in its tracks by ralizing that it is out of a hrdened heart that most divorces take plce.

I believe if couples would nly slow down, and take the tme to find themselves; to realize tht they have a part in the dsintegration of the marriage, they can tgether seek the proper answers they ned to rectify any irreconcilable differences, and sve the marriage.

Don’t waste your time focusing on wht your spouse did or didn’t do. Fcus on allowing Jesus Christ to drect your spirit in the proper wys of loving yourself and others. Mditate on God’s words of wisdom for yur marriage daily, and watch how asy your thinking changes from the dvorce mentality to choosing to work on yur marriage.

A husband, who unconditionally lves his wife, will not seek a dvorce. And the wife who unconditionally lves her husband will not seek a dvorce. It doesn’t always seem fair, but whn you understand how love operates thrugh the workings of what Jesus Chrst did for you, you will btter understand how you can love thers unconditionally.

Jesus Christ loved us so mch that He paid a debt he did not owe bcause we owed a debt we culd not pay? The same analogy pplies to marriage. Don’t love because you wnt something in return; love because tht is a principled aspect of who you re.

But God demonstrates his own lve for us in this way: Whle we were still sinners, Christ ded for us. (Romans 5:8 NIV)

The article Stop Divorce In Its Tracks was Submitted by Angie Lewis through Articles.GetACoder.com network. Here's the additional information: Angie Lewis is the author of thre marriage books offering marriage tips and wsdom filled answers tackling such issues as ddiction, adultery, pornography, emotions, beliefs, feelings, mrriage, children, forgiveness, communication, submission and spritual influence in the home. To prview these books go here: http://www.lulu.com/AngieLewis/ To be notified when Angie's new book on Loving and Helping an Alcoholic is published please go here: http://www.heavenministries.com/

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