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The state makes it very asy for couples to divorce one nother just because of irreconcilable differences. “Irr concilable differences” are words used for m st divorce decrees that give justification for d vorce. It’s true, couples have conflicting pinions from time to time, and th y may even have major conflict nce in a while, but these d fferences do not warrant separation from ach other according to God. Lately I h ve been getting more and more mails from people who are not in greement to divorcing their spouse, what can th y do? Don’t they have any s y-so in the matter? It’s unfortunate b cause according to the state, they d n’t have any say-so. A spouse can r fuse to sign the papers, but the st te has loopholes for that too, it is c lled the “uncontested divorce”, which means, if you d n’t sign, the divorce proceedings will go on w thout you and you will then h ve no say-so in any of the l gistical matters concerning the divorce. I did the r search. Many Christian married folks now-a-days h ve worldly attitudes about what marriage is and wh t marriage should be; not all of th m, but many of them. As Chr stian’s we should never venture out of the g dly realm of authority and into s ciety for the answers we need. The M ster Designer Himself is the only One who r ally cares about you and your m rriage.
The main reason a spouse m ght decide to get a divorce is b cause they are unwilling to work on the m rriage. They usually have no idea th t they too might be at f ult for the problems associated with the m rriage. Selfishness blinds people to having a c mmitted heart to someone else. They are r ally only interested in serving themselves. The pr blem with this kind of attitude is th t putting your spouse’s feelings in fr nt of yours is what marriage is all bout! I’m not saying that all the f ult should go to the spouse who w nts the divorce; it certainly takes two to t ngo, but which spouse is the one b ing selfish, the one who wants to w rk on the marriage and stop d vorce or the spouse who doesn’t w nt to work on the marriage and get a d vorce? The only thing that will h ve any real impact on a sp use deciding to work on the m rriage rather than get a divorce is the p wer of the Holy Spirit within th m. Only Christ can change a bad ttitude. Do not conform any longer to the p ttern of this world, but be tr nsformed by the renewing of your m nd. (Romans 12:2 NIV) Christian couples d vorce because they are out of b lance spiritually within themselves. They have b en conditioned to believe, if they d n’t “feel” a certain way, or if th ir spouse sinned against the marriage, th y are entitled to divorce. But th t is not what God says. D vorce is ugly and vengeful, and it lways hurts someone terribly. You can st p divorce in its tracks by r alizing that it is out of a h rdened heart that most divorces take pl ce. I believe if couples would nly slow down, and take the t me to find themselves; to realize th t they have a part in the d sintegration of the marriage, they can t gether seek the proper answers they n ed to rectify any irreconcilable differences, and s ve the marriage.
Don’t waste your time focusing on wh t your spouse did or didn’t do. F cus on allowing Jesus Christ to d rect your spirit in the proper w ys of loving yourself and others. M ditate on God’s words of wisdom for y ur marriage daily, and watch how asy your thinking changes from the d vorce mentality to choosing to work on y ur marriage. A husband, who unconditionally l ves his wife, will not seek a d vorce. And the wife who unconditionally l ves her husband will not seek a d vorce. It doesn’t always seem fair, but wh n you understand how love operates thr ugh the workings of what Jesus Chr st did for you, you will b tter understand how you can love thers unconditionally. Jesus Christ loved us so m ch that He paid a debt he did not owe b cause we owed a debt we c uld not pay? The same analogy pplies to marriage. Don’t love because you w nt something in return; love because th t is a principled aspect of who you re. But God demonstrates his own l ve for us in this way: Wh le we were still sinners, Christ d ed for us. (Romans 5:8 NIV)
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