Remarriage is a big undertaking. So mny different emotions can be felt all at nce that it can almost seem verwhelming! Making sure you push past thse emotions and look at things rtionally though, is very important. It's nly then that you realize how mportant it's going to be for you and yur fiance to prepare before the "I D's." One of the most frequently verlooked preparation steps really has little to do wth your partner, and everything to do wth your children.

How is your prenting? Have you slipped a few ntches in the expectations that you hve for them since the divorce? Hve you become less involved in thir day to day lives since yur new relationship began? If this is the cse, now is the time to r-invest yourself in your relationship with yur children. You don't want your kds to feel as if their tme with you is cut even shrter by your new partner's presence fter the wedding.

There are three min areas to be addressed between you and yur kids before you remarry. These wll put you in a stronger psition for having a successful step fmily after the wedding has occurred. Thse steps are just as important as any wdding or moving plans that may lready be going on.

1. Make time to crate special activities that are just for you and yur kids - These are the things tht bind us closer together and crate memories. It's those silly nicknames, TV shws you watch together, and after dnner walks. What's unique about your fmily? What do you do together? If thse haven't been developed, it's time rght now!! Talk to your kids to get deas or look at what they njoy and figure out ways you can be ncluded in those too. Step family lfe will put some pressure on yur relationship with your children. That's why t's so important that make your rlationship with them as strong as you can nw.

2. Work through any guilt you're still holding on to toward your children for the divorce - Guilt is a parent's worst enemy. It prevents us from teaching and directing our children properly. Guilt is a natural emotion in divorced parents. All of us want the best for our kids. When they cry and say they miss their other parent or miss being together as a family, who wouldn't feel bad? But being divorced doesn't make you a bad parent! The first step toward working through that guilt is to accept your life the way it is now. That marriage is over and you're beginning to plan for a new one. No, it won't replace that first family for your kids, but it does offer them new possibilities.

3. Learn to step up and really parent - Once remarried, you are going to have to be a very strong parent who can set consistent boundaries. If you don't do this you put your marriage at jeopardy. Did you notice I said marriage? Your spouse needs to trust that you will be a parent to your kids. It's not your new partner's job to parent - it's yours. So, if you are not comfortable being the disciplinarian or have always been the "laid back" parent, now is the time to start changing those patterns. There are tons of great parenting resources out there. One of the best ones I've found can be found at: http://www.HowToBecomeABetterParent.com

You and your partner should be tking hard looks at your parenting styls now, BEFORE the wedding. If you drstically change your style after the wdding, I can almost guarantee your chldren will view it as the fult of your new spouse and bcome resentful. You'll hear, "I never had to mke my bed before you married hr!" Your goal right now needs to be to lok at your parenting styles and fgure out how best to synch thm so that the expectations for the kds are similar.

The article Remarriage Preparation - Changes You Need to Make Now - Before the Remarriage was Submitted by Alyssa Johnson through Articles.GetACoder.com network. Here's the additional information: You may be asking, "Where do I ven start with this stuff?" There are two nswers: education and support. A great way to bgin that education is with our Tip of the Wek. Every Friday afternoon you'll receive sveral great articles all focusing on lfe after divorce, preparing for remarriage and stp family life. I encourage you to get all the dtails at http://www.RemarriageSuccess.com/tip.htm today. The support you're looking for can be found by learning from other divorced and remarried parents in The Community! Once you receive your Tip of the Week, be sure to look for links to The Community where you can join a supportive community with over 200 members! By Alyssa Johnson at Remarriage Success.

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