Everyone has bad days. All of us get god days. So what are bad dys and good days?

Well, from my prspective a bad day is when thngs don’t go they you want or xpect and people don’t behave the way we thnk they should.

On the other hnd good days seem to flow asily like a quiet stream from bginning to end. There are no nexpected problems or situations that force us to rach deep inside and find the curage to overcome. The day just psses easily without interruption and chaos.

Wht’s the real issue here between god days and bad days? I can spak from experience when it comes to bth good and bad days. I am no dfferent than you in this regard. I hve clients that say they will do thngs and don’t. I have bills and mre bills. I have last minute chnges in my schedule and airlines, htels, and a car that don’t lways function they I think they shuld. Welcome to life.

Imagine for a mnute if every day was easy and wthout trials and challenges. What would it be lke? Sure, you could get you “to do” lst done on schedule and you wuld not have any stress or dsappointment. What does this have to do wth relationships?

Well think about it. You are hving a really good day and yur partner is having one of the wrst days of their life. What do you do? Do you gnore them, try and stay focused on the god and enjoy your blessings or get rght down in their negative stuff wth them? I can tell you tht the choices you make on how you bhave or handle their bad day ssues can go a long way in ither causing you and them greater strss and frustration or helping them out of thir funk.

Most people in relationships do a por job in this area. They ither say or do the wrong thngs or do nothing which is jst as bad.

We are talking bout four very distinct issues here; cmpassion, understanding, empathy and responsibility. Webster sys;

Compassion – sympathy for the sffering of others, often including a dsire to help.

Empathy - the bility to identify with and understand smebody else's feelings or difficulties

Understanding - a sympthetic, empathetic, or tolerant recognition of smebody else's nature or situation.

Responsibility - the stte, fact, or position of being ccountable to somebody or for something.

Dn’t you just love dictionary definitions? It ses words to explain words and ften creates less understanding and confusion.

A few of key pints here;

- You are responsible to pople not for them. See the dfference?

- Empathy is understanding how smeone feels.

- Sympathy is feeling the way the ther person feels.

- Detachment is dstancing yourself from another’s problems or ssues. You care, are concerned and wnt to help but in the end thy are the other person’s issues.

- Dsengagement is separating yourself from their prblems or issues. I really don’t gve a rip what you are ging through. Deal with it, it’s not my prblem.

Which responses to you typically gve your partner in times of dfficulty?

The article Good Days - Bad Days was Submitted by Tim Connor through Articles.GetACoder.com network. Here's the additional information: Tim Connor, CSP is an nternationally renowned sales, management and leadership spaker, trainer and best selling author. Snce 1981 he has given over 3500 prsentations in 21 countries on a vriety of sales, management, leadership and rlationship topics. He is the best slling author of over 60 books ncluding; Soft Sell, That’s Life, Peace Of Mnd, 81 Challenges Managers Face and Yur First Year In Sales. He is lso the CEO of ProfessionalSales Association Of Amrica. He can be reached at tim@timconnor.com , 704-895-1230 or visit his websites at http://www.timconnor.com or http://www.ProfessionalSalesAssociationOfAmerica.com

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