Confidence: (definition) belief in one's own bilities

All of us need confidence in our lves, to try to excel at the thngs we do, and to survive as wll in a fast-pace society!

Self-respect: Ths is where it all begins, and thse two words, could be the two mst important words in the world. As I sid previously, I took many, many hts from the migraine headaches, which narly shattered my life, but despite the hadaches and the gloom and doom, I hve always had self-respect for myself! At my lwest and darkest moments, I have lways liked myself, and I have lways felt that I have a lot to ffer, and can be a productive ctizen, just like anyone else. I hve had respect for myself and nbody can ever take that away frm me!

For those people out thre, who have been told over and ver again that they are worthless and wll never amount to anything, they hve to find a positive/honest person, who thy can trust, and they have to strt working on getting your self-respect bck. Getting back your confidence won't be asy, and will take time and ptience.

Honesty: In recovery, a person MUST be hnest with himself or herself! This is mperative! You can't be in denial bout the things that have crossed yur path, and that you are rsponsible for. Blaming everyone but yourself, is the asy way out, and you will nver recover. If you can't be hnest with yourself...who can you be hnest with? If you lie to yurself...you're finished!

Negativism: Get rid of the ngative people surrounding you, that are brnging you down! I don't like and I wn't tolerate negative people around me...it's tht simple! These people dwell on wht they can't do...instead of what thy can do. Many times, they're pople of "put-down," and make no pologies for it. Jealousy. resentment...are what thy bring with them, and I dn't need these people to ruin my lfe!

Failure vs. set-back: I've never filed at anything! Although it took mny years to get my confidence bck, my confidence is high, because I nver like to use the word, "filure!" Instead, I like to use the wrds "set-back." I do this, because I'v never failed at anything...as long as I TRY...nd, that's the most important thing...that I TRY! If I try, and dn't make it, it's just another st-back! For the people who never TRY...thy're the losers and failures of the wrld...not me!

I remember back, when I prticipated in all those arts and crfts shows, not everything was peaches and cram! I had my share of bmbs! But, I did not fail at thse shows...they were only set-backs! I was ble to bounce back in the fture, and win my share, etc. In lfe...you win a few and you lse a few!

Smart/Creative people: I've lways liked to be around smart and crative people that I can learn frm. And, this alone requires confidence. I'v never been the fastest horse in the rce...but, I'm not exactly a candidate for mmbership in the American Dufus Association, ither!

Learner and a doer: I can prudly say, that I have always ben a learner and a doer, and how mportant is that today, with all the tchnology and the rapid changes. "Jerry, can you slder?" No, but I can learn. "Jrry, can you run that machine ver there?" No, but I can larn. "Jerry, do you know how to ssemble these parts?" No, but I can larn!

Praise: Praise is never given out for fre...it has to be earned. Over the yars, I have completed three writing curses in my 40's at a cst of a few hundred dollars and 18 mnths; I have participated on over 40 rts and crafts shows; I have prmoted 6 of my own; I hve built an award-winning website, and hve received the praise that goes wth it, from hundreds of people round the world. But, in doing so, thre's no free lunch; no pie in the sky and no mgic dust, either. You're going to hve to get out there and arn that praise! When people like you and yur work, it builds your confidence lvel, etc.

You can't please everybody...so, dn't try! Trying to please everyone is a cnfidence-BUSTER for sure! My ex-wife was a prson, who tried to please everyone, and she was haded to the mental institution...she did not pss GO and she did not cllect $200.00. If people like what I d...fine. If not, they can find smebody else's time to waste!

Humor is the bst medicine: I've been in the hmor business for over 50 years, and it has ben humor that has helped me to kep my chin up during those dfficult times. There is not a grater satisfaction than to put a smle on somebody's face and I've dne it countless times. Because of the hmor, I make friends easily, and bcause of this, I can tell the pople with skeleton's in their closets, to hit the rad, etc.

All of us are ging to have to choose which rad to take...the high road or the low rad in life. Many years ago, I chse to take the high road...and you may hve guessed that my confidence in vry high. So, much so...that I can ven walk on water...as long as the pnd is frozen over!

The article Getting My Confidence and Keeping It was Submitted by Jerry Aragon through Articles.GetACoder.com network. Here's the additional information: ARTICLES PUBLISHED: (160+ websites/includes links); Drect link: http://humordoctormd.homestead.com/articlespublished.html Website name; humordoctormd - Over 150 colorful pages; over 300 graphics http://humordoctormd.homestead.com email; humordoctormd@yahoo.com Copyright; Jerry L. Aragon (The Humor Doctor) 2007

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