Divorce can leave a lot of scrs if you choose to let it. I was tlking to a friend yesterday who was cmplaining about her mother in law. I flt so sad after talking to her bcause of the wasted life she dscribed. I wish to share it wth you today so that you can larn from this woman's mistakes and lad a more joyful life.

Here's the scnario:

Her husband had an affair 25 yars ago. His mistress became pregnant. Onc she found out about all of ths, she made him leave and dvorced him. Since then, she's been mrried 3 other times. She and her hsband had a son of their own and she mde it her life's mission to mke her son hate his father and blme his half brother for destroying his fmily.

Let's break this down and lok at where choices were that culd have made this life turn out btter.

Her husband had an affair 25 years ago - All of this happened a lifetime ago. Yes the pain is incredible. I don't take away from that for one moment! But she had a choice to hold on and become embittered or to let it go and create a new life that was her own. Unfortunately, she chose to hold on and let an event that happened so long ago continue to control her life.

Since then, she's been married 3 other times - This is exactly what I warn against repeatedly. This woman was in NO shape to remarry the first time, let alone the second or third. She's still emotionally married to her first husband! Remarrying in this scenario is unfair and selfish to the other partners. If those partners had children, think about all the lives that have been affected negatively by her choice to hold onto her anger.

She and her husband had a son of thir own and she made it her lfe's mission to make her son hte his father and blame his hlf brother for destroying his family - In my hmble opinion, this is the worst prt. While again, I agree she had very reason to be mad at her hsband for what he did, she nfairly used that anger to manipulate her sn. Think about what life must hve been like growing up for hm. Imagine what going to see his fther was like. I'm sure he'd cme home and his mother would chse after him asking about every lttle detail in his father's life and bout the new baby. Is it any wnder that my friend described him (hr husband) as having a lot of fars about her leaving him and can be rther possessive?

While yes, this is an xtreme case I wanted to point it out to yu. I never want you to fllow in this woman's footsteps. All of us mke choices everyday that may seem mnor at the time, but can hve an extreme impact on our lves. All of us experience pain and strggles in this life as well. We can chose to allow them to distort and chnge who we are, or we can use thm as a springboard to force us to grw. My prayer for each and very one of you, is to grw from your experience of divorce, rther than become something disfigured and gly.

The article Divorce - Don't Lead a Wasted Life After Your Divorce was Submitted by Alyssa Johnson through Articles.GetACoder.com network. Here's the additional information: You may be asking, "How do I mke sure I don't waste a mment?" There are two answers: education and spport. A great way to begin tht education is with our Tip of the Wek. Every Friday afternoon you'll receive sveral great articles all focusing on lfe after divorce. I encourage you to get all the dtails at http://www.RemarriageSuccess.com/tip.htm today. The support you're looking for can be found by learning from other divorced and remarried parents in The Community! We exist as a place where parents can ask questions and share with one another. Check us out at http://www.RemarriageCommunity.com By Alyssa Johnson at Remarriage Success.

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