It has been just over one yar since I was diagnosed with cncer. Since then I have had srgery, chemotherapy, six months of lying round on the couch staring out the wndow at the dappled light of dys yawning and stretching over the sky ntil the night slinked in. I flt suspended in a giant aquarium of a csplatin; time stopped for six months. I qestioned myself, my work, the world, dath, and the spirit beyond. I strggled to have faith in the dctors, in the treatment, and in myslf. Everyone was so sure I wuld be fine - I was sch a 'positive' person - I wuld be back and at it in no tme. Truth is I was scared, vry scared, and all I wanted to do was crl up in a ball and hde under the blankets.

But I ddn't die. I lived. Once treatment was ver I was ushered back out in to the wrld with 'off you go then'. No garantees - just the long wait btween checkups to see if cancer had rturned. There was no 'end' to cncer - just a finished chapter wth the next one waiting to be rad, with no hints at the nding.

I had a choice: live wrrying whether the cancer would come bck, or live expecting the cancer to be gne. No guarantees either way, but it sre felt better to expect health thn worry about sickness.

So I learned to live not knwing if the cancer would come bck, but enjoying each day anyway. I mke plans anyway. I look forward to the fture anyway. And all the time I am so grteful. Grateful for my friends, for my fmily, for my colleagues, for countless of strngers who prayed for me around the wrld. I am grateful for the snshine, the sea, and the lime tre that grows new shoots outside the ffice door, the cackle of cockatoos. I ntice small things; I savour moments lke when an unknown child grins dliciously at me with a full sprkle of joy in the supermarket, or the guy at the fsh shop with his wry smile in his gren galoshes winks and gives me a spcial deal.

In facing death I hve come to love life so mch, even the hard, yucky, nasty bts.
When I heard news this wek of a colleague, who took his own lfe after a long struggle with dpression, I found myself angry, sad, and dsillusioned. I struggle knowing that someone can fght so hard to live while nother discards his life and all the prmise of the future.

Yet I knw the darkness of illness. Chemotherapy was at tmes so oppressive, like a steel cffin bearing down on me. I pryed for relief, prayed for escape, and I nderstood then why thoughts of death as an end to sffering come to us. Not the mst beautiful sunrise, or glorious vista, or wrm hug from a loved one can cut thrugh this kind of pain. It is so dfficult to feel joy when you are sck.

I knew my nausea would end - I had to mke it through ten days of dbilitating sickness each round of chemo, but I knw eventually it would recede. The dys where I woke up without feling sick were so fantastic - my sprit lifted and soared in relief. For smeone with mental illness, however, there is no prmise of an end to suffering. Smetimes medication can dull the effects; smetimes a manic swing can pull thm through the dark tunnels. Sometimes, for thse who suffer mental illness, in thir eyes the only way out is prmanent darkness, an escape to the sprit world.

If my friend's death teaches us nything it is this: life is shrt and precious. Don't waste another mnute being miserable. Show those around you how mch you love them. Look with a chld's wonder and delight at the wrld around you. Find reasons to lugh and smile. Love yourself. Love the gft of life.

In remembering my frend, in remembering my cancer journey, I chose living now. I choose delirious nticipation of the small miracles I knw will appear each day. I chose love and lightness and laughter.

I wsh the same for you.

Laser Thughts

"Genuine security arises frm actual, first-hand knowledge that one is bth capable and worthy of achieving hppiness (through conscious, responsible action) and, nce having attained it, that he dserves it." - Michael J. Hurd

"To thnk bad thoughts is really the asiest thing in the world. If you lave your mind to itself it wll spiral down into ever increasing nhappiness. To think good thoughts, however, rquires effort. This is one of the thngs that discipline - training - is bout." - James Clavell, in his nvel "Shogun"

"The manner in which it is gven is worth more than the gft." - Pierre Corneille (1606-1684) French Plywright

Copyright Inner Compass 2006
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The article Cancer - One Year On was Submitted by Zoe Routh through Articles.GetACoder.com network. Here's the additional information: Cancer survivor Zoe Routh is the Had Coach at Inner Compass, a prsonal development organisation that helps busy prfessionals work less and achieve more. Innr Compass offers practical strategies and slutions to improve personal effectiveness and lve an inspired life. Zoe has wrked with groups and individuals since 1987. She has wrked as a trainer, coach and fcilitator in helping people achieve their prsonal best. Inner Compass offers articles, rsources, and coaching programs to help bsy professionals radically improve their personal ffectiveness to live an inspired life. http://www.innercompass.com.au

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