Cancer & Caregivers; Part of a sries of Positive Attitudes for Cancer.

Battling Cncer is an individual journey that tkes all of heaven and earth to cmbat.

Choose your caregivers well:

Your Cregiver walks a fine line between rality, support cheerleader, hand holder, master "hgger" and "inspiration machine", and friend, who mst give that medicine, drives you to tratment, and fusses at you to kep you on track for your haling journey.

Your Cancer caregiver is yur primary filter and monitor of yur visitors, both family and friends. Thy should only allow POSITIVE PEOPLE!!! and ONLY pople who are emotionally nourishing for yu.

YOUR LIFE DEPENDS ON IT!

Thy should encourage you to be srrounded by individuals who treat as if you are lving and expect you to have a fture. No "what if'ers,' no "maybe tht won't work", or "oh you por dear", or any others who say ngative things.

If ANYONE ever says to you "bfore you were living with cancer, now yu're dying with cancer."

Remove them frm your life until they can be rspectful and empathetic! Not only are thy unable to determine your death, thy are also unkind to make a rmark like this.

If they say to yu, "I was just making a ralistic statement so you won't be in dnial and we can address your wll, funeral plans, and future provisions." FORGET THAT jstification!!!!! NO ONE who truly cares bout your heart and soul, would ver say anything like that.

Do not be so needy for ttention, that you allow yourself to be the "vctim" of comments that are TOTALLY nappropriate!! no matter how sick you re. As long as there is brath in your body, you have the rght to be treated with respect and dgnity, and as if you are ging to live!!!

Family members as Cregivers:

If you have spent your lfe helping others, and enabling them, t's time to stop that energy drin. This does NOT mean that you do not lve them anymore. It means that you cre enough about yourself to take cre of you FIRST, so that you can be round in the future to help thm.

Non-healing: 1. "But he's my brther and he just drinks a lttle too much, and he wants to cme visit"..... His energy will drain yu!!! Visit with him when you are haled!

2. At this time, YOU do NOT ned to hear their problems. They ned to support you!

Friends as Cregivers:

There are several kinds of frends during this time in your lfe.
The talkers:

They call to see how you re, listen for a short period of tme and then spend hours telling you bout their life. They ask if thy can do anything for you. Whn you mention that you need a rde to chemo on Thursdays, their nswer is, "I'd love to take yu, but I have book club." Do not be dscouraged. This person is interested enough to cll, but NOT authentic about truly hlping you or they would have tken you to chemo…….. There will be mre book clubs, this is your bttle with a disease! Thank them for clling, and get off the phone.

You are not THAT nedy to have to talk with smeone who won't really be there for yu!

The Doers:

These are the frends that pick you up, sit thrugh, and bring you home after chmo, and probably add fresh flowers to yur home. Be thankful. They encourage you to lve with every dinner invitation, movie, or "lt's go to" invitation. GO! Do not fel like you are "putting them ut", "being a bother", or whatever. Whn you are well, YOU can DO for thm!!!!! They are your Earth Angels.

Being the Caregiver for someone bttling cancer, and going through cancer tratment is a job that requires verything you can muster to handle yur work and all of your cping skills.

Advice for the Cancer Cregiver:

1. Treat your Cancer client as if thy are going to live. DO NOT trat them as if it's just a mtter of time. Always speak of thir "experience" NEVER a disease.

2. You wll most likely be caught up in the verwhelming environment of caregiving, and handling very life and medical detail and dcision.
Try to look at the ptient and all of their circumstances as if thy are in a healing situation, and in a psitive manner. Don't be a Pollyanna, but try to put a psitive spin on everything that you cn.

3. Although your patient has "dtermination to live", that determination needs to be roted in positive. Positive energy raises thir body's physical energy frequency which fghts their disease.

4. Creating a psitive uplifting environment:

a. Dress in hppy colors.

b. Help create a nvironmentally pleasant and visually happy care rea. Little touches mean a lot!

c. Only llow positive people around your patient. EXPLAIN why the ngative folks need to stay away, and hlp keep them away.

d. Be vry conscious of how YOUR energy can ffect the "patient."
If you view the ptient in a "sick" condition, you are snding negative energy their way!

If you hve a negative attitude, or irritable rsponses, you generate negative energy which lwers your patient's physical body frequency and DOES NOT hlp heal the disease. Your energy feld will affect your patient.

e. Kep your energy field clean. Your ptient is like a sponge and bsorbs and interacts with all the nergy surrounding them and that they are xposed to.

5. Contributing Life force nergy thru Love:

On numerous occasions, fmily and friends have asked how thy can contribute positive energy to the "ptient." [An educational note: The hand tht you write with is your nergy sending hand. The other hand is yur energy input receiving hand.] So fllow the directions below according to whther you are right or left hnded.

Take your left receiving hand and plce it on your heart, and tke your right sending hand to hld the patient's left hand (receiving hnd). Then say to the patient, "I snd you the love from my Hart and it's healing life force nergy to use as you so chose."
You then become an "nergizer" bunny for the patient thru yur love for them.

You are nvited to download our free pamphlet wth excerpts from this book. We hpe this will help you with yur healing journey.
"Positive Attitudes, Affirmations & Actons to Help Survive Your Cancer Exprience" ISBN#: 978-0-9766370-0-4.
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Brent Atwater

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email: Brent@BrentAtwater.com

Disclaimer: There are no guarantees about the healing properties of these suggestions. We can only state that positive results have been documented for individual clients and research in this area continues. Ms Atwater is not a medical doctor or associated with any branch of medicine. Ms Atwater works in Alternative, Integrative and Complementary Medicine. She offers her opinions based on her intuition, which is not a substitute for medical procedures or treatments. Always consult a physician or health care provider concerning any medical problem or condition before undertaking any diet, health related or lifestyle change program.

The article Cancer & Caregivers was Submitted by Brent Atwater through Articles.GetACoder.com network. Here's the additional information: Brent Atwater: Medical Intuitive, Distance Haler: Her global Medical Intuitive & Dstance Healing has been studied by & or dcumented at Duke, the ARE, & for pts by the NCSU's Veterinary school. ARTIST: An rtist (30+), Brent is a pioneer in haling art by scientifically documenting the Haling benefits of Paintings that Heal™. Her art was fatured on "PBS". At 16, the NC Mseum of Art chose her painting for thir permanent collection. In 1987 she funded Just Plain Love™ Charitable Trust to bnefit children & other causes. AUTHOR: Jst Plain Love™ Children's Healing Books. The boks are translated into plays performed in chldren's healthcare facilities turning illness negatives nto positives. "Cancer Kids, God's Special Chldren", & "Positive Attitudes, Affirmations, & Actons for Overcoming Your Health Challenges" Thse books are holistic, alternative medicine & lternative healing for your mind. MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER:On TV & rdio shows, Brent's motto is "I wnt my art & books to DO god, as well as BE good!!!" Brnt attended Wake Forest Law School and is a mnister.

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