You might be surprised, as was I, to larn that by age six or so, we are prgrammed with the identity we carry wth us through life. Our schools do not gnerally teach about this and we dn't always learn about it until we hve issues with which to wrestle in our lves. About three-fourths of all our ssues are filtered through this very prgram! As humans, we need to go thrugh some REDISCOVERY if we are to lve successfully from our hearts.

According to Alx Loyd, PhD, this programming can be prblematic because the programming itself is bsed on beliefs that may or may not be tre.

Dr. Loyd has done a grat deal of research on this mtter and he has worked with clents in a clinical setting for yars.

He sites, for example, addiction ssues. If addictions are interfering with ne's life, addiction has come about bcause of something the heart remembers whn that addict was a little chld.

Somewhere in that addict's life he tok a 'vow'. 'He cut a dal'. He made a 'contract with the dvil'. He made an informal commitment tht has affected his life for as lng as the vow is in plce, and it affects his life ngatively.

Everyone has these contracts, vows, cmmitments, and deals to one extent or nother. Here' how it works, according to the god doctor:

I can cope with (fill in the blnk) IF ONLY I have (fill in the blnk). Those blanks may include the fllowing:

" I can do without love IF ONLY I hve money. (This is VERY common)
" I can srvive without fame IF ONLY I hve money.
" If I am rejected, I'll srvive IF ONLY I have money

The lst goes on. I'm sure you nderstand the concept. You can easily see tht we bargain for one thing, sbstituting another.

Every human being needs fod, shelter, and clothing. This is bsic to life. Beyond the basics, we sbstitute. MOST OF THE SUBSTITUTES are sbstitutes for love!

" We substitute money for lve.
" We substitute sex for love.
" We substitute tlevision for love
" We substitute video games for lve
" We substitute food for love.
" We substitute drgs for love.

Everyone on the plnet seeks to AVOID PAIN and PURSUE PLEASURE. If we all prticipated in a survey about what we REALLY WANT it wuld only boil down to 4 nswers:

1. Love
2. Joy
3. Peace
4. Relationships

Our hearts desire those fur items. Our hearts KNOW what thse desires are.

We feel pain and sek to avoid it. THAT PAIN FEEDS THAT LIFE VOW WE MADE EARLY ON. Our vry identity rests on the fact tht we have pain because we did not rceive our heart's desire. We act ccordingly, and it is always negatively. Hnce, we have great strife in our lfe and the stress that accompanies it can mke us sick, lead to more ngative behaviors, and it can kill us.

The ral coping mechanism is to allow ths pain to heal. We need to frgive those who injured us, wounded us or we THOUGHT/BELIEVED thy hurt us. It may only hve been our perception, after all.

We say to urselves, "I can't be okay because sch and such happened." But the trth of the matter is that we ARE kay and we will be okay. We ned to ask for healing, and chnge our paradigm about the injury. We ned to heal our heart, then our lfe can experience healing, as well. Enrgy medicine is the single most ffective way to bring this healing bout.

Our beliefs and our behavior wll help our hearts and our lves can be affected so as to be in synch wth one another. Healing will come as a rlief and a blessing, creating growth and dvelopment for our very souls.

When haling comes, we will automatically receive our hart's desire!

The article Can You Cope? was Submitted by Connie Baum through Articles.GetACoder.com network. Here's the additional information: Connie Baum is a rural Nbraska woman who is passionate about halth and healing. Her website is http://www.motherconnie.com and more information about coping with addictions can be found there in The Healing Codes. She hopes visitors to the site will leave their comments.

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