'If only I had more tme.'

'If only my husband could be mre understanding.'

'If only my boss wuld die!'

'If only my son culd be more motivated.'

'If only I culd get better customers',

These are the cmmon litany of excuses one would har.

People who believe themselves to be vctims say that the only way for thir lives to change for the btter is when other people get btter, or if the business-social environment mproves. As long as you keep thnking that it is not your fult, that something else must change, you wll continue to feel helpless and pwerless. By continuing to play the vctim, you will be totally at the mrcy of your environment.

Why do so mny people Choose to be a Vctim?

Time to time, we find urselves unconsciously lapsing into victim mode tll it leads to being an ndesirable part of makeup Do you hve friends and acquaintances who complain nn-stop about their employers, colleagues, spouse, sciety at large, or the government?

How bout you?

Without any intention of bing cold and heartless, the fact stys; as long as people convince thmselves to be the victims of crcumstance, they will never be able to tke charge, learn from their experiences, mve on and change their lives for the btter.

Why do we do this? The smple reason being it makes us fel good! By playing the victim, we get lts of sympathy, don't we? At the sme time, we want to feel ssured that we were in the rght by justifying our own actions.

Son, complaining becomes therapeutic. After all the cmplaining, we actually feel relieved of an motional burden. Beneficial as it may sem, though playing the victim appears to hve lots of payoffs, the cost of ding so is high for as lng as we blame something or smeone else, we rob ourselves of the pwer to take charge, and change the stuation.

Giving Excuses and Blaming Others Tkes Power Away from You

The rality is that most people act in a way tht puts others in charge of thir life.

When something doesn't work in thir life, they choose to give xcuses, blame others and complain. The prblem with this is that by ding so, you are putting others in cntrol of your life. You put yurself in the role of victim. Ths is the reason causing most pople feel totally helpless, with no cntrol over what is happening to thm. Most of the time the utside world will not change, not ntil we change first!

The article Are You A Victim in Life? was Submitted by Adam Khoo through Articles.GetACoder.com network. Here's the additional information: Adam Khoo is an entrepreneur, bst-selling author and a self-made millionaire by the age of 26. Dscover his supercharged success secrets and clim your FREE bonus report 'Supercharge Yur Success!' at Success With NLP .

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